If it crashes and burns you have to go through all the hell you went through before, again, this time multiplied because it's happening AGAIN.If this crashes and burns,
If it crashes and burns you have to go through all the hell you went through before, again, this time multiplied because it's happening AGAIN.If this crashes and burns,
That would be if I invested as much as I did the first time. The first time I invested my entire being within 3 months. This time it'll take alot more and alot longer than that for me to get in that deep again.If it crashes and burns you have to go through all the hell you went through before, again, this time multiplied because it's happening AGAIN.
Wow. Just wow.Because you're making decisions that are painfully obviously bad, and you're being told as much, and you don't like it. If you are that sensitive, don't share your idiotic plans with a bunch of people you don't know.
Wow. Just wow.[/QUOTE]Because you're making decisions that are painfully obviously bad, and you're being told as much, and you don't like it. If you are that sensitive, don't share your idiotic plans with a bunch of people you don't know.
Wow. Just wow.[/QUOTE]Because you're making decisions that are painfully obviously bad, and you're being told as much, and you don't like it. If you are that sensitive, don't share your idiotic plans with a bunch of people you don't know.
Dude, it's not like you have given any advice. The people earlier gave advice. You, you're just saying "it's a bad idea and you're an idiot." That's not advice. If you want to whip on someone, go for it. But don't expect to be considered anything but the world's largest douchebag if you do it in a thread about confusing personal stuff like this. It's kind of like the Sunday morning ceasefire that they have on the street (thank you Wire).Because you're making decisions that are painfully obviously bad, and you're being told as much, and you don't like it. If you are that sensitive, don't share your idiotic plans with a bunch of people you don't know. You aren't being a caring parent, you're being a crazy distrustful dictator. And salvage, yeah, I guess that is right term for digging up something that's been at the bottom of the ocean for 8 years. And one of the issues that let to your divorce was your body fat percentage? Seriously?
Sometimes people don't want to change. Sometimes the little "standard quirks" are the things that drove you apart in the first place. It's naive to blindly believe that anything has changed in either person. Change is possible, but not entirely likely.Null, people do change.
I am not the same person I am now 10 years ago. I still have my "standard" quirks like playing video games and such, but I am also more responsible of my action and my family. Time can change people when they want to change.
Sometimes people don't want to change. Sometimes the little "standard quirks" are the things that drove you apart in the first place. It's naive to blindly believe that anything has changed in either person. Change is possible, but not entirely likely.[/QUOTE]Null, people do change.
I am not the same person I am now 10 years ago. I still have my "standard" quirks like playing video games and such, but I am also more responsible of my action and my family. Time can change people when they want to change.
In the 8 years we were split, we never did that as it was. That wouldn't change at all. Thank you though.(in case things don't work out)
My parents divorce for years, but one thing they taught me is that never speak ill of the other parents with the child. While my parents argue with each other when they are together, they never speak badly of each other toward me and my sister. I think that is important in my book.
I'm trying to figure out where and when I stated that I was doing this for the kids or that I was going to involve them at any early stage in these talks with my ex.... Though I do appreciate your concern and your passion for the subject. The reasons for this, is, because I felt a spark being around her that I haven't felt in a long time. On a personal level, not a family level.Is the main and primary reason to get back together with your ex out of love for her, or because it would be "good for the kids". If the latter: don't do it. Wanting to add the kids in this so early makes it seem you are more wanting a "family" than getting back with your ex. Would you still be interested in getting back with your ex if there were no kids involved?
Bringing kids back into a relationship with your ex early on can end very badly. First you get their hopes up, then, if it fails (again), you destroy them. If you are truly serious about getting back with your EX just be with your ex alone, sans children, for a good long while. It has been years. You need to actually date each other again. Exclude the kids in the conversations too. Don't be a parenting couple again, because you're not. You have to get to know each other again, not have endless conversations on how "Timmy got a B in math this week" and "Sarah is learning to play the piano" where she replies she misses them so.
Going into this for the wrong reasons and insisting to add the kids in this so soon could mentally destroy your children if this fails after a few months. If you care so much about them, you know it is better to exclude them for the time being until you are both sure this could work.