I don't really know where to post this because there's such a mish-mash of emotions involved and I don't think any conversation on the topic would be enough to support a whole new thread, but I am now a double-uncle.
My sister just had her second baby, my niece, yesterday, at about 28 weeks. If people are creepily stalking me, you may recall that
my nephew was born at 28 weeks as well 4 years ago. Doctors were never able to tell why Dexter was so premature, as every one of them told my sister it was the healthiest pregnancy they've ever seen. She's the kind of person who follows doctor's orders to the T, and lives and eats very healthy. It turns out, without wanting to get too graphic or anything, that my sister only has half a uterus and is incapable of carrying a child full-term. I guess this isn't something they can tell from ultrasounds, as they only found out because my niece was in a breeched position and she needed a c-section.
Child birth should be all happy, celebrational and congratulatory, but I was with my sister and brother-in-law when Dexter was born, and so I've seen the complications that come with such a premature birth, and so I'm kind of just terrified. So far my niece is doing much better than Dexter was at this same stage (She's breathing fine on her own Dexter was ventillated for a lengthy period after his birth), but we all know that the chances of there being no complications are really low. She'll have her brain scans on Monday, so we'll find out then if there's any brain bleeds,that will require a shunt, and leading to hemiplegia, cerebral palsy and possible autism like Dexter. They don't expect her to be out of the hospital until July. Dexter was in the hospital for around 3 months before he was discharged, so that sounds about right.
On the bright side, when Dexter was born my sister was living in Saskatchewan. Luckily I was visiting at the time, because other than me they really had nobody there for support. This time, they've gone through it all before, and they have tonnes of friends and family in Toronto and nearby.
I was supposed to go home to visit my sister's family this weekend but it looks like I'll be visiting the hospital instead.