You'll never feel "lighter" than you do after that kind of situation. I usually use it as a jump start to a new (temporary) healthy eating period.
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Hylian I read your page and my thoughts are first that you need to remove every instance of "if you are interested" that just sounds kind of eeyore. If they aren't interested they just won't read it. Saying you are INTP makes it sound like you have a disease. I thought that and I know what it means I can't imagine what someone who doesn't thinks. At the very least don't make it the first line.
As far as that goes I think you should showcase your interests, history etc before mentioning you are shy. I know you are shy and I know that bothers you but by being on the site in the first place you are trying to overcome shyness. Why then put it right back to the forefront?
These are just my impressions from reading it. I know you are a good guy and I think lots of girls would be interested in you but I don't think the way you have the first section set up that they are going to get an accurate impression of who you are.
As far as that goes I think you should showcase your interests, history etc before mentioning you are shy. I know you are shy and I know that bothers you but by being on the site in the first place you are trying to overcome shyness. Why then put it right back to the forefront?
These are just my impressions from reading it. I know you are a good guy and I think lots of girls would be interested in you but I don't think the way you have the first section set up that they are going to get an accurate impression of who you are.
Okay, looked at the profile.
Picture: Update it. Dress nice, have someone else take the picture and use either soft light or natural light. It'll make you look more appealing to the average girl. Smile as well!
I agree with makare take that INTP shit outta there. Don't even mention that you're shy. Don't say introverted geek. When I hear that I think "live in parents basement*/afraid of sun light".
Explain your interest with out using the words "geek" or "nerd". You don't need to label yourself.
Sound confident and happy to be there.
Perhaps explain a nice first date.
Edit: Posted before I was done.
The section where you explain what you're looking for sounds...needy. Everything is about how a girl will make you feel. She has to see the best in you, bring out the best in you, make you laugh. There's nothing that I would find appealing if I was looking.
Picture: Update it. Dress nice, have someone else take the picture and use either soft light or natural light. It'll make you look more appealing to the average girl. Smile as well!
I agree with makare take that INTP shit outta there. Don't even mention that you're shy. Don't say introverted geek. When I hear that I think "live in parents basement*/afraid of sun light".
Explain your interest with out using the words "geek" or "nerd". You don't need to label yourself.
Sound confident and happy to be there.
Perhaps explain a nice first date.
Edit: Posted before I was done.
The section where you explain what you're looking for sounds...needy. Everything is about how a girl will make you feel. She has to see the best in you, bring out the best in you, make you laugh. There's nothing that I would find appealing if I was looking.
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Whoa, Hylian you look so much like my Ph.D. advisor that I'm almost convinced you're his long lost son.
I had horrible luck with OKCupid, everyone on there seemed really flaky. I had a lot better luck with plenty of fish, but get out on a few of them. I was in a somewhat similiar spot as you not too long ago. I spent over 6 months on those sites, and it made me feel worse about myself than I had in a long time. Until I actually found someone that is. Yes it sucks and hurts to be rejected, but try not to take a lack of response personally. Just keep trying, you'll find someone. It was definitely worth it for me.
Also look past what you would normally look for in a person. You might be suprised and find someone great. If not, at least you might get an extra date or two you can chock up to practise. And get some of the women on here to read over your introduction message. That will make or break you as much as your profile.
Also look past what you would normally look for in a person. You might be suprised and find someone great. If not, at least you might get an extra date or two you can chock up to practise. And get some of the women on here to read over your introduction message. That will make or break you as much as your profile.
I met my wife on PlentyofFish. I had to deal with a LOT of flaky ladies first though... some real gems let me tell you.
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Just remember that when making a dating profile the message is not "hey if you are interested..." it is "hey you should be interested"
although to be completely candid that is just my assessment from reading others profiles. I have an okcupid one but it was never intended to meet anyone. I am just a quiz junkie and once I started answering questions I had a hard time stopping lol. I haven't tried dating sites in earnest.
although to be completely candid that is just my assessment from reading others profiles. I have an okcupid one but it was never intended to meet anyone. I am just a quiz junkie and once I started answering questions I had a hard time stopping lol. I haven't tried dating sites in earnest.
I didn't have anyone to take the pictures for me but here were a couple of quick pictures to see if these types of pictures look any better. (yes I know I need to shave)
http://imgur.com/a/cwagK
http://imgur.com/a/cwagK
I haven't checked out your profile yet, but I will say this: Your profile should not explain everything about you. Your profile should merely tease enough info to make people want to contact you to get that explanation.
Profiles are bait, not food. Reading one should not make you full, it should make you hungry.
--Patrick
Profiles are bait, not food. Reading one should not make you full, it should make you hungry.
--Patrick
It's a Meyers-Briggs personality type. It stands for Introverted iNtuitive Thinking and Perceiving. http://www.personalitypage.com/INTP.html
I took a management course where I had to take a Meyers-Briggs typing test (though it's more of a survey/sorting tool rather than a test). You can find them online.
I took a management course where I had to take a Meyers-Briggs typing test (though it's more of a survey/sorting tool rather than a test). You can find them online.
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I know that I have been whining about this whole cleaning/moving/back aching crap for a week or so now so that's old news. But today I finally got the tv and other donations down to the charity place and I was excited at the prospect of no more heavy lifting.
Then my friend texted me. She needs help moving into her new apartment. *tears of unfathomable sadness* ah well I took two aleve.. I'll survive.
Then my friend texted me. She needs help moving into her new apartment. *tears of unfathomable sadness* ah well I took two aleve.. I'll survive.
[USER]Hylian[/USER], I looked over your photos, here are some things that came to mind:
- Try to avoid using on-camera flash; it's not flattering at all.
- Try to avoid having an overhead light as your main light source; have it coming in at an angle or the side.
- Avoid taking pictures with the camera near your face; it distorts your facial features. Have someone stand back and zoom in a little.
- I understand dressing casual to show the regular you, but it doesn't hurt to have a couple pics dressed up.
- In pictures like these, I would recommend making sure you're looking straight out at the viewer.
Personally, I'd also avoid wearing the photochromic lenses, assuming they no longer completely lighten; a clear look at your eyes is a good thing.
- Try to avoid using on-camera flash; it's not flattering at all.
- Try to avoid having an overhead light as your main light source; have it coming in at an angle or the side.
- Avoid taking pictures with the camera near your face; it distorts your facial features. Have someone stand back and zoom in a little.
- I understand dressing casual to show the regular you, but it doesn't hurt to have a couple pics dressed up.
- In pictures like these, I would recommend making sure you're looking straight out at the viewer.
Personally, I'd also avoid wearing the photochromic lenses, assuming they no longer completely lighten; a clear look at your eyes is a good thing.
As far as the glasses go I am going to be ordering a new pair very soon because these are starting to fall apart. As for the rest of the advice I will take it to heart and try to find a way to get some better pics.
FYI, don't ever trust the Myers-Briggs test. It has low reliability and questionable validity. Also, you can just change your results if you don't like them. Pick a justification and then choose your new personality! http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/my-mbti-results/why-you-may-decide-to-choose.asp
Not true for the good ones. For the Myers-Briggs, yes, largely because it divides people into dichotomous groups. A good personality test will not do that. Personality, by the way, is defined as a stable trait, and the research shows that personality traits become more and more stable as people age.
Yeah I have gone from being typed as an INTJ to ENTJ to INSF just by changing my answers to reflect how I feel at that very moment.
So... what's a good personality test, and is there one that can be taken online?
There are tons of tests used in research. The most famous is probably the Big 5 Personality test. It doesn't classify you with a label, but it does identify where you are on a continuum for 5 different traits that have been shown to be 1.) largely distinct from each other and 2.) stable across retesting.
The five traits, if you are two lazy to click the link to Wikipedia, are Openness to New Experiences, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism (which is really just an inverted scale of Emotional Stability).
As for an online version, I cannot speak for the validity of any since I have paper versions but Google brings this one up as the first hit.
The five traits, if you are two lazy to click the link to Wikipedia, are Openness to New Experiences, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism (which is really just an inverted scale of Emotional Stability).
As for an online version, I cannot speak for the validity of any since I have paper versions but Google brings this one up as the first hit.
Also, can you forward it to the HR departments of all companies around here, ever? The Meyers-Briggs is used far too often, and a lot of them seem to swear by it as an infallible, perfect tool of definitively putting people in little holes.
This one does seem to be pretty legit, btw. It doesn't give you a value for your score but it shows your placement on the continuum. If you guys find a better one with some Google-Fu, then post it here!
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Fun times.
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SeraRelm
Thus illustrating that how we see ourselves can be completely at odds with how others see us.
Fun times.
No one said it is.
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I'm pretty sure that the people who actually know me would rate me the same as that.