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Hmm, self segregation seems like the best way to have society accept y- waaait a minute. Also, when did being gay need a test? I haven't studied at all, just extracurricular activities.
Bisexual is not gay enough for the Gay Softball World Series
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Dave
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Face it, Sera. You're a natural talent.
GasBandit
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I hear the practical portion of the exam is a real pain in the...
OK, I'm probably going to get lambasted here, but here we go anyway.
I fully understand why many "100% gay" people have a problem with bisexuals in general. Now this is largely based upon my experience with the GLBT community, and as such is completely biased to my experience, but by and large most of the bisexuals I've met are only bisexual when it comes to sex and straight when they are introducing their partner to their families.
I think we see far too many "weekend gays", especially because being bisexual is all the rage right now.
Many feel that it minimizes the struggle that gay men and women have gone through in accepting their sexuality, and being accepted by others.
Personally, I could care less what your sexuality is, but I can see where gay men and women, especially ones from generations who were forced to live a lie most of their lives, would feel slighted by bisexuals hitching their wagon onto the gay rights movement.
As to transgendered folk, I can't even begin to see why they're thrown to the wolves by the gay community as they are/were just as stigmatized, if not more so than gays and lesbians.
All that being said, at the end of the day, we're all human and don't like what's different and that happens in all groups.
I'll close with a line from Torch Song Trilogy. "Just once, I'd like to meet a bisexual who brings his boyfriend home to his mother and steps out with his woman on the weekends."
I fully understand why many "100% gay" people have a problem with bisexuals in general. Now this is largely based upon my experience with the GLBT community, and as such is completely biased to my experience, but by and large most of the bisexuals I've met are only bisexual when it comes to sex and straight when they are introducing their partner to their families.
I think we see far too many "weekend gays", especially because being bisexual is all the rage right now.
Many feel that it minimizes the struggle that gay men and women have gone through in accepting their sexuality, and being accepted by others.
Personally, I could care less what your sexuality is, but I can see where gay men and women, especially ones from generations who were forced to live a lie most of their lives, would feel slighted by bisexuals hitching their wagon onto the gay rights movement.
As to transgendered folk, I can't even begin to see why they're thrown to the wolves by the gay community as they are/were just as stigmatized, if not more so than gays and lesbians.
All that being said, at the end of the day, we're all human and don't like what's different and that happens in all groups.
I'll close with a line from Torch Song Trilogy. "Just once, I'd like to meet a bisexual who brings his boyfriend home to his mother and steps out with his woman on the weekends."
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(inner pedant twitches uncontrollably).
Cajungal
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I know what you mean, Bowie. I'm not gay, so it feels weird being "indignant" about this kind of thing, but that kind of behavior bothers me too. It's like that "Close Face" episode of Moral Orel where the sex shop girl falls in love with a girl in high school, but she only sticks around to giggle about how daring and "bad" she's being. I had mostly gay guy friends in high school, and a lot of them struggled. It was a really conservative school where any whiff of homosexuality was pounced upon as the best gossip, because it was such a fun "novelty" at that school. Lots of people tried to get close to them just because they were gay... to "study" them, it seemed like.... and to talk casually about how they might be bi because they think they might be attracted to both sexes. It's not easy when people make light of a part of your identity or turn it into a game. It never affected me directly, but I felt for my friends who were really bothered by it.
I don't pretend that I can tell when someone is honestly bisexual or just indulging in a fad, so it's not something that makes me mad often. I remember having a pretty good feeling about it back then, though.
I don't pretend that I can tell when someone is honestly bisexual or just indulging in a fad, so it's not something that makes me mad often. I remember having a pretty good feeling about it back then, though.
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