Demographics: Available or Taken?

Single/Dating/Married?

  • Single

    Votes: 21 35.6%
  • Dating

    Votes: 10 16.9%
  • Married

    Votes: 28 47.5%

  • Total voters
    59
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married in 99. separated 4 years ago, many dates in that time, dated for one year, split up, single now for 2 years, and then find out I'm still legally married and not even "separated" anymore even though we haven't been together for four years and I've been 2 years without any significant dating.
 
Well, let's see... it's been a few years since a certain someone utterly destroyed me. A few dates here and there since, but nothing serious.
 
Single since getting dumped in April. Had a few trists here and there sort of.

Super single since having a microstroke and I have very little confidence to even try right now. So thanks for the pick me up thread.
 
If I wasn't swamped at work I would make a joke about taken and being a man with a very specific set of skills and cuningulus but instead I'll just say I'm happily single
 
If I wasn't swamped at work I would make a joke about taken and being a man with a very specific set of skills and cuningulus but instead I'll just say I'm happily single
I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you are looking for a relationship, I can tell you I don't have emotion to spare. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career of performing cunnalingus. Skills that make me an orgasmic pleasure for people like you. If you let my penis go now, that'll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you don't, I will look for you, I will find you, and I will make you orgasm.
 
I...can't follow that with justice, sorry.

It's been...almost exactly 14 years since I got so utterly destroyed by a female, every time I think of her and the event, it still makes me sick and sad. It was enough to turn me off of relationships forever....however, I've been married now for 8 years, together for almost 12.

So, I guess what I'm saying is that for every significant other that treated you like garbage, there's another one out there who'll do you right.
 
I answered "Married" because to me "dating" means dating several people in a row, or at the same time, which is what I did when I was dating. (random encounters, FWB, ONS, etc..) Now I am in a long term relationship but there was no option for that, so I put in Married.
I would consider a long term relationship still dating.

Also, I would like to enter "Married and Available" but it's not multiple choice![DOUBLEPOST=1349126267][/DOUBLEPOST]
I would consider a long term relationship still dating.

Also, I would like to enter "Married and Available" but it's not multiple choice!
My more serious answer is Married 6 years, together 10 years.
 
Don't get me started on the "Available" thing as I have done (and still do to some extent) the poly thing. Maybe it's a cultural thing but here we don't say we are "dating" after we've been together for 10 years but simply aren't married (yet). Dating and being in a relationship has two very distinct meanings here.

Edit: Not to mention to more complex relationship types outside of your primary. You can have additional lovers, be dating, have a secondary live in partner, be in a triad, and of course the various BDSM dynamics that can be outside of your primary relationship. (E.g.: Vanilla with primary, Domme of others, sub with secondary.)
Let's just say it's the simplified version. Dating = In a Relationship with one or others. Married = Legally married/common law. Single = Not seeing anyone.
 
Don't get me started on the "Available" thing as I have done (and still do to some extent) the poly thing. Maybe it's a cultural thing but here we don't say we are "dating" after we've been together for 10 years but simply aren't married (yet). Dating and being in a relationship has two very distinct meanings here.
I think it's pretty similar here. I know I've seen in the past couples on my Facebook calling themselves married after being in a longer term committed relationship and it doesn't go over very well with actual married people.
 
I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.
 
I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.
Ehhh, not so much nowadays. Most (if not all) of Canada has Common Law marriages on their books stating that if you've been living together in a committed relationship and presenting each other as firm and commited partners, legally you might as well be married and assets can be divided as if you were married.

I know I like to grind the gears of anyone who refers to their live-in girlfriend as a wife. "OH, so you went through the process of making it official and you didn't invite us? OH, you aren't actually married? OH."
 
As far as I know, you have to file quite a bit of paperwork to be considered common-law.
  • In British Columbia, a person who has lived and cohabited with another person, for a period of at least two years is considered a common law spouse, unless one or both of them were married to another person during this time, according to the "Estate Administration Act".[15]
  • In Nova Scotia, a couple must cohabit for two years in a marriage-like relationship, and may not have been married to another person during this time.
  • In New Brunswick, a couple must live together for three years or have a natural or adopted child together. They cannot have been married to another person during this time.[16]
  • In Alberta, common law marriage has been subsumed since 2003 under the terms of the Adult Interdependent Relationship Act,[17] which may additionally apply to any two unrelated people living together in a mutually dependent relationship for three years. Only one interdependent relationship is allowed at a time. In the event either of the common law spouses are married to other persons during this time, neither of the common law couple can begin to be "interdependent" until divorce from other spouses occurs.
As far as I've seen, no paperwork required other than checking off "Common Law" on your tax return if you want to do a joint filing.
 
I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.
I think it's because a lot of married people want to feel like they're some special class of person. We're not. Some married people aren't even happy or in healthy relationships, while many "long-term unwed relationship" people are.

So I go by Ame's version.

Alternatively, could add a "going steady" option and retro up this poll.
 
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