The person before me had a one week turn around on cheques and did statements once a month only that came out three weeks after month end.
I do cheques as quickly as I can and my month end statements come out less than a week after month end. I also hold open houses where I set up shop during events with the girls so that they can come to me and get instant cheques.
But I guess that they just want more and more. I'm going to have to lay it out in this month's report. I'll try to do it nicely.[DOUBLEPOST=1496345158,1496345118][/DOUBLEPOST]
Ew!!!
fade
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I'm not going to lie. I've got a bit of an anger management issue. I'm trying to help myself, but most of the therapy and the self-help readings all say the same thing, and it's a really useless bit. They all start with this advice: when you feel anger rising, step back and blah blah blah. The last part is usually the same. The advice makes sense, and it sounds good, but it's the first part that doesn't work. At least not for me. The anger goes from 0% to 100%. There's none of this "rising" period.
The other thing they always say is "don't put yourself in the situation that makes you angry". Well, that's fairly useless, too, because it's impossible.
I especially hate the anger because I only experience it at home. Outside, someone could spit in my face and taunt me all day, and I wouldn't feel a bit of anger. I guess it's because home is inside my shell.
No, I'm not the parent who posted the thing in the rant thread. Frankly, that post made me feel like the worst dad ever, though. Because I tend to bluster a lot, and that person felt like hell for doing it once. I am more like the mom from Malcolm in the Middle. But really, only at home.
I can trace this back to my parents. They were (still are, I guess) very angry people. I hated it, but at the same time, I learned it. I really want to unlearn it.
The other thing they always say is "don't put yourself in the situation that makes you angry". Well, that's fairly useless, too, because it's impossible.
I especially hate the anger because I only experience it at home. Outside, someone could spit in my face and taunt me all day, and I wouldn't feel a bit of anger. I guess it's because home is inside my shell.
No, I'm not the parent who posted the thing in the rant thread. Frankly, that post made me feel like the worst dad ever, though. Because I tend to bluster a lot, and that person felt like hell for doing it once. I am more like the mom from Malcolm in the Middle. But really, only at home.
I can trace this back to my parents. They were (still are, I guess) very angry people. I hated it, but at the same time, I learned it. I really want to unlearn it.
Hal and Lois are the best. They love each other so much, more than the kids; which is the fantastic.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again. I think you and I are twins separated by chromosomes. You described me well. Except, I do get angry outside my house, but not outwardly. I am a crazy person in the car, and I have been called a bully at home. It's my absolute least favorite characteristic. I hate it. I have made progress. I used to explode like the Hulk and kick or smash some inanimate object. I know just get loud and curse. It's still a terrible example for my kids. I have also not found any thing to help. I am looking into some meditation techniques. I'll let you know if anything helps. Good luck anger-bro.
I don't understand how my sister and I are related sometimes. I mean I understand what happens when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much, but I don't get how we can be so different. We're both women and we should both be outraged when a woman is assaulted by a man, and we are, but not for the same reasons. She's furious, but because the guy who has been accused has a nice wife and the assault happened a long time ago. WTF? What do either of those things have to do with the fact that the guy has been accused of hurting someone? She's angry at the victim!
I'm an angry person.
Angrier than most people who know me would believe. Most of my anger is directed at myself, but there's lots of it from external sources.
One thing is to recognize that it happens mostly at home - good job. Seriously: that's something that eludes a lot of people.
Next, step into the why - why at home. Maybe you know partly, or wholly, but make sure it's not an assumption. Test your theories.
After that it's a matter of anticipating anger: okay. I'm angry at home because of (x). These events that lead to (x) are happening. RIGHT NOW is when you can make some choices about your anger.
THIS is the skill you need to slowly (and it is SLOW, I'm sorry, there's no good news from me here) to eventually feel 'rising' anger.
If you are angry, and you aren't sure what to do, I'm going to PM you my phone number. You can call or text me any time. I know, it's so awkward, or whatever, but think about whether you'd like things to be so awkward or you be angry.
Just give me a text. Call me. What's the worst that could happen?
I'm predicting what will happen is that, a year from now, Hylian will be officiating at the wedding of Chad and Fade Sexington.
No that's not the worst thing that could happen, not by a long shot. It would be a great thing. No, the worst thing that could happen is that I catch the bouquet.
Sigh. Sat down at Starbucks to write and a rambling guy with Conservative views talked my ear off. Started with asking what "agenda" the comics I got from the library had.
Now I'm in a foul mood and not sure I feel like writing.
I didn't want that conversation. I wanted to write. I kept saying in my head, "Just shut him out. Tell him to leave you alone. Tell him to fuck off." But no, I had to argue with someone with an opposite worldview. Again. Fucking hell.
Now I'm in a foul mood and not sure I feel like writing.
I didn't want that conversation. I wanted to write. I kept saying in my head, "Just shut him out. Tell him to leave you alone. Tell him to fuck off." But no, I had to argue with someone with an opposite worldview. Again. Fucking hell.
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Yesterday I had to explain to someone that people trying to hack into his computer could not be solved by running a bunch of unmanned drone strikes into "...Afghanistan or Russia or places like that where all the hackers live."
I wish I were kidding.
--Patrick
Well of course that wouldn't work. They'd just hack the drones and use them against us. We need to send in fighter jets.
Well, the writing session turned out better than I expected. Turns out that foul mood was just what I needed to kickstart the first chapter.
2,000 words written.
Unless Dill needs a smart mouthed, street wise Raven sidekick named Poe...
Eh? EH? ... no, that's a terrible idea.
Quoth the raven.
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Only if he actually grows the wolverine muttonchops.
Some people HAVE asked me why there aren't more Poe references for a city called Nevermore Bay. I think that would be a bit on the nose. Or...beak?[DOUBLEPOST=1496587415,1496587081][/DOUBLEPOST]
Hey, I turned the foul mood into a positive, so I'll take it as a win.
And you know, I've been thinking more about that conversation. It really bothers me how it all started. As I said, he looked at my latest library comics, specifically Image's BIRTHRIGHT, and asked, "So what's its agenda?"
Not "What's it about?" or "Who wrote that?" or anything like that. Just straight to "What's the agenda?" like so many internet commenters make on Marvel comics. Why can't it just be a good, fun story with engaging characters? As Freud said, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar." Yeah, you get writers who have a particular reason for their stories or characters, but to automatically assume that everything has an "agenda" is ridiculously presumptuous. His argument is that these agendas, in every single work of corporate art or fiction, pushes the agenda that governments want to push. Like female or LGBT characters.
Despite my best efforts, I had no idea how to argue with the guy because his logic was so unbelievably twisted and conspiratorial.
"Its agenda is to twist people like you into a lather for fun and profit. Mostly fun. Now go away."
My apologies for not having this line ready for you sooner. Keep it in your spare parts bin. You never know when you may need it again.
At some point it's necessary to accept that there are people not worth bothering with.
Oh, I know. But that's not as easy when they're basically sitting across from you at the same table.
Just pretend you're from the U.S. next time.
"What's its agenda?"
"First of all, how dare you speak to me."
Because for a "certain type" of person out there, if anything doesn't have a cis, het, assumably Christian, white male out in front, it has an "agenda".
Hugs for dealing with that.
Hey Fade has excellent judgment when it comes to what other people might like.
If he likes it, other people won't, and vice versa.
Just kidding you know I love you Fade.
Must be a Canadian thing. I'm always having random people start talking to me. If they're nice, I'll be nice.
If they're rude, sadly it's frowned on to trip them with my cane. Very tempting though.
My.Parents.Can't.Clean. PANS! STOP SOAKING THEM IN FUCKING WATER-it erodes the pan and sometimes makes the mess WORSE.
One of the hardest things about clinical anxiety is the fact that many people think "just get over it" is good advice.
When I first got together with my girlfriend, my anxiety was causing a huge problem for us. I tried to fight it, and I was losing. Eventually I got some professional help. But another thing that helped us was when my girlfriend found the comic featured here:
http://www.mamamia.com.au/living-with-anxiety-cartoon/
She told me that it helped her understand how I felt. And on that day she promised that she wouldn't be one of those people who would just tell me to get over it, because she realized it's not that easy. It's like telling someone trapped in a rainstorm that they should just pull an umbrella out of thin air.
Today I had an anxiety attack at a party and I had to leave. She didn't want me to leave, and we ended up having a heated argument. Hours later, before she went to bed, we tried to have another talk to resolve it. And guess what she told me to do? That's right, "Just suck it up and stop worrying."
I haven't felt this hurt in a long, long time.
When I first got together with my girlfriend, my anxiety was causing a huge problem for us. I tried to fight it, and I was losing. Eventually I got some professional help. But another thing that helped us was when my girlfriend found the comic featured here:
http://www.mamamia.com.au/living-with-anxiety-cartoon/
She told me that it helped her understand how I felt. And on that day she promised that she wouldn't be one of those people who would just tell me to get over it, because she realized it's not that easy. It's like telling someone trapped in a rainstorm that they should just pull an umbrella out of thin air.
Today I had an anxiety attack at a party and I had to leave. She didn't want me to leave, and we ended up having a heated argument. Hours later, before she went to bed, we tried to have another talk to resolve it. And guess what she told me to do? That's right, "Just suck it up and stop worrying."
I haven't felt this hurt in a long, long time.
That's awful. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that.
Even if she doesn't understand how you feel, she should understand how your feeling effect you
Even if she doesn't understand how you feel, she should understand how your feeling effect you
I've seen this girl a few times in the past week and while I went into it thinking it could be a relationship, I don't think I really want it. It's become really obvious that she wants to date more and is sending me all these nice messages and making plans for us to do stuff down the road and I just feel like a dick. She's nice and I don't really have a good reason for why I don't want to date other than a general gut sense of feeling like it isn't right. We aren't really officially dating so instead of just saying "I'm breaking up with you" it's essentially saying "I don't want to see you anymore" which seems a lot meaner in my eyes. I know it's just a week, but I've never actually ended any kind of relationship before so I don't even know how to properly do this, and I know I won't feel good afterwards, but I don't really have any choice.
Just sucks is all.
Just sucks is all.
And yet it never happens to me...
Is that because you start talking to them?
(Oh man, it would be hilarious if you had pranked Nick and it was you he's ranting about!)
You can be a bit scary looking at times.