"New phone, who dis?"My mother just texted me to say we haven't talked in a month what is going on, as if she didn't say or do anything to cause me to ignore her for a month. Can't decide if I should start shit, since I'm sick of her attitude towards me, or if I should just continue burying it since I live 2000 miles away and don't have to spend time with her all that often. Yes, yes, I know I should probably bring it up, but I hate any form of confrontation as it is, and I usually spend my limited tolerance for it on more important things.
I like that one! I’ve had my number for years so I can’t get away with it with my mother, but if your number is new, it’s a god one to try!
Damn lol!
My parents have had the same home number since I got tested for kindergarten. The only reason I know that is because apparently they asked me for our phone number and I gave them the old one. It didn't match the information my mom gave them, so she had to explain that we had recently gotten a new number.
My day started out decent enough until I decided to grab a drink on my lunch break. I was standing in line when someone called me ma'am but when I turned around they started to call me sir. I had been feeling rather passable before that and now I am trying to fight off a panic attack so I can finish my work day 
In b4 "I told you so."
HEY now.
You were correct, sir. I had occasion to look again at my literature and it does indeed state 6 years as the recommended "whether they need it or not" interval. Don't know where I got 3 from, except maybe that it's been almost 3 since I had the last set installed.
--Patrick
My computer finally updated itself today from WinX 1703 to 1709.
An unexpected side effect of this was that the caps lock and num lock keys on my keyboard didn't light up until after I reinstalled the devices under the revised OS.
This meant that I accidentally locked myself out of Halforums for about an hour because I didn't realize my caps lock was on.
Hmph.
--Patrick
An unexpected side effect of this was that the caps lock and num lock keys on my keyboard didn't light up until after I reinstalled the devices under the revised OS.
This meant that I accidentally locked myself out of Halforums for about an hour because I didn't realize my caps lock was on.
Hmph.
--Patrick
@sixpackshaker : last week my girlfriend got attacked at work, my father was diagnosed with Parkinson's, my aunt was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, and I had some problems at work.all in all, not a good week. Spread over several posts in the three rant threads.
GasBandit
Staff member
Underling one made a mistake 2 months ago that just now has come to light and might cost the company $2,000. No mitigating circumstances or anything as there would usually be, just she plain forgot to do something and now it's come back to bite her, and by extension, me, on the ass later.
Dammit, and the GM had just been talking day before yesterday about giving her a raise, her own office, and more responsibility. Now the Owner is having a tantrum and getting all up in everyone's business, and that might be torpedoed. Sigh.
Dammit, and the GM had just been talking day before yesterday about giving her a raise, her own office, and more responsibility. Now the Owner is having a tantrum and getting all up in everyone's business, and that might be torpedoed. Sigh.
Did she know about her mistake and keep quiet about it, or did she not know this mistake had occurred? Because the former is worse than the latter, I think.
GasBandit
Staff member
No, it was a complete surprise to everyone, her included. We discovered it by being asked for an invoice that never was received, so I went to go print another copy of the invoice and found the contract for that order was never put in. From everything I can tell, it just kinda got "lost in the shuffle" back one friday in September. I've already instituted a new step in the process to ensure this doesn't happen again, but of course our company's owner has to harrumph loudly from 150 miles away about how he doesn't understand how this happened.
It took everything I had not to reply "that's because you don't understand how anything happens in this building at all."
"I don't understand, this says she did the thing."
"Yes, it says she did, and she checked it off because she thought she had, but she didn't."
"But... I don't understand, this says she did the thing. Why is it not done?"
/headdesk
/headdesk
/headdesk.
I have a bump on my head because I slammed my phone against it repeatedly today. I feel your pain.
Ug. I just, Ug. My mother is driving me batty. Almost every conversation I have with her, there is some dig, some insult, some snide or sarcastic comment towards me (or Eriol, though far far less often). Often little shit, but does it ever pile up over time. And I'm just sick of it. I've called her out on it before, and all that results in is her not talking/communicating with me for a week (or a month), and then everything gets back to normal. I've asked her to stop because of her behaviour's effect on me, she say's I'm too sensitive and it's just a joke. Ignoring it's not working either. So I'm out of coping mechanisms.
Today's fun was when we were talking over e-mail about what folks wanted for Christmas, I asked her, and her response? "A loving family that cares OR a link to Filipino Cupid....." (For reference, I am her only family.)
I just, ug, I'm so done. I see her pretty much every week (since she moved across the country to be near me), and we talk on the phone regularly (often multiple times a day, because I still always pick up when I see her number, stupidly), but I have no idea what I could do that would make her happy (other than get a divorce and move in with her so she has complete control over everything I do.). I'm just never good enough, and it sucks. And I'm never going to be good enough. And her passive-aggressive bullshit is driving me (more) insane. I'm just so tired of it all.
Today's fun was when we were talking over e-mail about what folks wanted for Christmas, I asked her, and her response? "A loving family that cares OR a link to Filipino Cupid....." (For reference, I am her only family.)
I just, ug, I'm so done. I see her pretty much every week (since she moved across the country to be near me), and we talk on the phone regularly (often multiple times a day, because I still always pick up when I see her number, stupidly), but I have no idea what I could do that would make her happy (other than get a divorce and move in with her so she has complete control over everything I do.). I'm just never good enough, and it sucks. And I'm never going to be good enough. And her passive-aggressive bullshit is driving me (more) insane. I'm just so tired of it all.
I sympathize, my mother is both ridiculously passive aggressive, and loves to make herself the victim if I call her out on any of her bullshit.
@Dirona I think you're awesome. You're absolutely not too sensitive. It's not ok for her to continue to put you down like that over and over, especially after you have told her to stop.
I wish I could offer you some advice, but I am still driven insane by my mother on a regular basis. Mothers can be the worst.
I wish I could offer you some advice, but I am still driven insane by my mother on a regular basis. Mothers can be the worst.
The lesson I had to learn is that it doesn't matter if you're good enough for your parents. Your life is your own. You don't have to make them happy, proud, satisfied, or anything. I remember telling my dad that I was going back to college to major in psychology. He laughed at me. "You? A psychologist?!?" I decided his opinion of what I did with my life didn't matter any more. Because if I kept listening to him, I would keep holding myself back like I had in the past. I am accountable to myself, not my parents.
I am sorry you have to deal with a mom like this. It's not easy to untangle yourself from the expectations they have placed on you or the way it affects your self-regard.
There's just so much 'AWW HELL NO' in that right there. Yeah, you don't put the hammer down and make sure she understands you mean it (and be prepared to mean it) . . . that kind of crap isn't going to stop.
I'm trying really hard not to be that kind of mother to my kids. I love them so much and I tell them all the time. So much in fact that they roll their eyes sometimes. It was hard being my daughter's age and having my mother constantly picking at me for something. And then when my health issues started, she didn't take them seriously for a long time. It was rough.
I wore a Pikachu suit in public for Halloween though...so they did have to endure that shame. I thought that they were going to be mortified, but they seemed to like it. Or at least hid it well if they didn't.
I wore a Pikachu suit in public for Halloween though...so they did have to endure that shame. I thought that they were going to be mortified, but they seemed to like it. Or at least hid it well if they didn't.
Same here. I'm trying hard to learn from my experiences and apply them to how I parent my kids. I want something better for them. That has to start with me. Granted I'm not perfect, but I try.
BTW:
My kids would have loved it if I was dressed like Pikachu for Halloween.
Guy shows up with a c/c that's not his. Says it's his "old lady's." It doesn't belong to the lady he's with.
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This is an action shot of some of my workdays...