So Mr. Wasabi and I have a vacation book in March. Just us. We need the get away. It's costing a nice chunk of change (for us at least), but it's going to be worth it. On top of that expense, we have to pay for our son's re-enrollment for the new school year which is partial first month's tuition plus application fee. He's also going to a 3 day camp with his class which means in the this month, including regular tuition, we are paying the school a boat load of cash. Not unexpected. My husband's car needs new tires. Also not unexpected, but expensive. We can do it. We have money set aside for these things and are using part of our tax refund for the vacation.
Today my mother-in-law calls me to tell me that she is planning a party for my father-in-law's birthday in April and wants us to fly out. That would be about $2k for all 4 of us to fly and does not include the hotel we would be to book since we can't stay at their house (my sister-in-law, her husband and 4 children live there, too). It's just too much with everything else. But I feel guilty about saying no.