Rant VIII: The Reckoning

Mom had her cancer surgery today. Doctor said she was full of cancer, pretty much all over the abdomen, and they were unable to remove it all. Only further treatment option is another 3 rounds of chemo, and if that doesn't work there won't be anything more they can do. No more surgeries, they say.

Can't process it right now. Not sure what to do next.
 
So my wife calls me on the way home from work, saying she's feeling really sick (this is a woman who would go to work with a broken foot and not complain) so I realized something was serious. She also always refuses to see a doctor for everything and she was asking if I'd take her. So I was doubly worried.

She's got influenza (Flu). She even took her flu shot, and still got hit hard. If that wasn't rant worthy enough. I just woke up at 3am, and one of my nostrils is clogged. I'm fucked. Now that she's sick and I'm getting sick, it's a matter of time before all 3 kids are sick. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu......
 
So my wife calls me on the way home from work, saying she's feeling really sick (this is a woman who would go to work with a broken foot and not complain) so I realized something was serious. She also always refuses to see a doctor for everything and she was asking if I'd take her. So I was doubly worried.

She's got influenza (Flu). She even took her flu shot, and still got hit hard. If that wasn't rant worthy enough. I just woke up at 3am, and one of my nostrils is clogged. I'm fucked. Now that she's sick and I'm getting sick, it's a matter of time before all 3 kids are sick. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu......

My family has been there for the past two months. Good luck.
 

Dave

Staff member
I'm trying to like you, Arvixe, I really am. But DAMN does your support suck!

My server (on a different, personal site) started sending out massive amounts of spam. I changed all my passwords but it continued, attaching on a message that it was coming from Arvixe but with my name on it. So I opened a ticket with them. Almost 2 days ago. No movement at all. I have over 50,000 "undeliverable" email responses in my email account right now and growing by the thousands. And that's just the ones that came back! So what does Arvixe do?

They send me the following email:

Hello,

We have received an alert that your account is being used to send large amounts of email. This could be bulk mailing you have sent from your account. Bulk emailing is not permitted on accounts of this type. From the sample mail logs, its clearly shows that local relayed mails are from this user ' dnihsen ' . If the number of emails per hour exceeds more that 1000 at particular time the lfd will notice it and blocks your account. So you may need to set mails batch by batch to avoid the excessive rate in a particular time.

Sample of the first 10 emails:
My account is sending out massive amounts of email? YOU DON'T FUCKING SAY?!? I tried to get on live chat with them and it went to a message. When I sent the message it opened up a new fucking ticket!!!

Jesus Christ are these guys morons.
 
So Mr. Wasabi and I have a vacation book in March. Just us. We need the get away. It's costing a nice chunk of change (for us at least), but it's going to be worth it. On top of that expense, we have to pay for our son's re-enrollment for the new school year which is partial first month's tuition plus application fee. He's also going to a 3 day camp with his class which means in the this month, including regular tuition, we are paying the school a boat load of cash. Not unexpected. My husband's car needs new tires. Also not unexpected, but expensive. We can do it. We have money set aside for these things and are using part of our tax refund for the vacation.

Today my mother-in-law calls me to tell me that she is planning a party for my father-in-law's birthday in April and wants us to fly out. That would be about $2k for all 4 of us to fly and does not include the hotel we would be to book since we can't stay at their house (my sister-in-law, her husband and 4 children live there, too). It's just too much with everything else. But I feel guilty about saying no.
 
Fuck the in laws! If they want you to fly out, they should pay. Otherwise, it's your money and your mental health that are important.
 
I second Adam. Unless the FIL is in bad health and that might be the absolute last time you see him, go take the time for yourselves. You've earned it.
 
I cannot agree with Adam and Emrys enough. The Canadians speak truth!

(Though of course, I'm in a similar situation to you, and am feeling guilty as all hell about the whole thing, so you know, ya....)
 
It would have to be a pretty significant birthday to justify a $2000 trip.

Now, you do have an out here. You've already booked your March trip. You booked it before you found out about the April birthday extravaganza and money doesn't grow on trees so you had to make a choice. You'd have to pay a significant penalty if you cancelled your March trip and you've already promised it to the kids. If the in-laws feel like breaking their grandkids' hearts, I'm sure you could look into cancelling but financially it doesn't make much sense.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
Seconding what has been said, Mrs WasabiPoptart : you've made your plans for this year, and the budget won't allow you to take the whole family for a two-grand trip just for a birthday party. If the in-laws offer to pay, reconsider if need be. If they don't understand, screw 'em.

....

You know what I mean! It isn't my fault your language is dirty! :p
 

Dave

Staff member
Do you host email accounts on that server? Is your SMTP mail server settings set so that it won't accept outgoing mail on port 25, only on the encrypted port? Have you looked through the website to identify any new scripting files (PHP or other) that don't belong to your website?
Nope, just mine. As to the scripting, if the host would bother looking at my server they could figure that out. I have cpanel access and that's it.[DOUBLEPOST=1359675636][/DOUBLEPOST]On the phone with them now. Finally got a real person.
 
It is my father-in-law's 50th birthday. BUT he is in good health and I don't see it as such a milestone as 75 or 80. And, yes, the vacation in March is just Mr. Wasabi and I without kids. We haven't gone away together in 4 years. We already have a hotel and flight booked.
Really I'm getting wound up over nothing. I know when I talk to Mr. Wasabi about it tonight it's not going to cause an argument because the facts are plain as day. Had she said something last month there might have been a greater chance of things being different. So frustrating!
 

Dave

Staff member
Bright side: All my bills for the month are paid.
Not so bright side: $84 left.

Good thing the wife gets paid next week or the food/gas situation would really and truly suck.
 

Dave

Staff member
Eat all those M&Ms I sent you.
I still don't know what I want to do with them. They are sitting on my desk but I don't want to eat them![DOUBLEPOST=1359739244][/DOUBLEPOST]Well, I DO...but I'd feel like I'm wasting a precious resource.
 
I got an M & M's story for ya. A couple a years ago they had this contest where one in a thousand bags had a white M & M and if you found it you would get a million dollars. Luckily for us we found one with said white M & M. Unluckily for us, my brother ate it without knowing what it was. Whats weird about this is this isn't the last time this happened. Million dollar Oreo, my brother eats it. Monopoly has a million dollar token contest, we find one with it years after the contest is over. I win a lottery from a magazine worth a million, its only acceptable in England. Contests and me do not get along.
 
I got an M & M's story for ya. A couple a years ago they had this contest where one in a thousand bags had a white M & M and if you found it you would get a million dollars. Luckily for us we found one with said white M & M. Unluckily for us, my brother ate it without knowing what it was. Whats weird about this is this isn't the last time this happened. Million dollar Oreo, my brother eats it. Monopoly has a million dollar token contest, we find one with it years after the contest is over. I win a lottery from a magazine worth a million, its only acceptable in England. Contests and me do not get along.
I bet you miss your brother a lot. You know... since you all murdered him and all.
 
Usually with those contests it has the winning form on the wrapper inside. Its probably not hard to dye an M&M white.
 
All M&Ms are white if you lick the color off the candy shell.
I still don't know what I want to do with them. They are sitting on my desk but I don't want to eat them!
Bake them into cookies. Makes them last longer.

Also, I wonder if reviewing the full headers won't find out where the mail is actually coming from, and you're just getting the backlash because they substituted your email in the replyto: slot.

--Patrick
 

figmentPez

Staff member
I still don't know what I want to do with them. They are sitting on my desk but I don't want to eat them![DOUBLEPOST=1359739244][/DOUBLEPOST]Well, I DO...but I'd feel like I'm wasting a precious resource.
Encase them in lucite!
 
I know he was like 8 when this happened, but the fact that he literally ate a million dollars haunts me to this day.
Those contests all had the winning message inside the wrapper, you didn't need the actual M&M. It's also very unlikely that you actually won, as sometimes an M&M simply makes it into the batch without coloring.
 
2013 can take a flying leap at a wall of dicks.

I started the year by getting removed from the special team I was a part of, with not so much as a fare-thee-well.

Then the miscarriage. Nuff said. Incidentally, a DNC cost $9000+, pre-insurance.

I just found out that I owe at least $1200 in taxes.

Garbage disposal's called it quits. And today, my wife's car decided to say "fuck starting" today.

Least I've got coffee.
 

fade

Staff member
2013 can take a flying leap at a wall of dicks.

I started the year by getting removed from the special team I was a part of, with not so much as a fare-thee-well.

Then the miscarriage. Nuff said. Incidentally, a DNC cost $9000+, pre-insurance.

I just found out that I owe at least $1200 in taxes.

Garbage disposal's called it quits. And today, my wife's car decided to say "fuck starting" today.

Least I've got coffee.
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