Rant VIII: The Reckoning

PatrThom

PatrThom

Have to attend a funeral today.
In itself, not that unusual (especially lately), but this is the first time I've had to attend the funeral of someone I (officially) used to date.
Am I all broken up about it? I can't really say yes. It's been a long time since we dated, we didn't date for very long, and turns out the main reason I haven't heard anything for the last few years is because they were purposely downplaying the progression of a degenerative condition (or two!) and (presumably) didn't want to be a downer/burden/whatever. But now I am going to go on a 3hr drive to meet up with a bunch of people who all spent more time together than I did, some of whom were able to visit in-person only last month, and I'm not sure how that is going to go.

--Patrick
 
Ravenpoe

Ravenpoe

PatrThom said:
Have to attend a funeral today.
In itself, not that unusual (especially lately), but this is the first time I've had to attend the funeral of someone I (officially) used to date.
Am I all broken up about it? I can't really say yes. It's been a long time since we dated, we didn't date for very long, and turns out the main reason I haven't heard anything for the last few years is because they were purposely downplaying the progression of a degenerative condition (or two!) and (presumably) didn't want to be a downer/burden/whatever. But now I am going to go on a 3hr drive to meet up with a bunch of people who all spent more time together than I did, some of whom were able to visit in-person only last month, and I'm not sure how that is going to go.

--Patrick
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It sounds like you don't want to go, and don't have a very strong connection to the people that will be there? In which case I would ask, why go?
 
PatrThom

PatrThom

Ravenpoe said:
It sounds like you don't want to go, and don't have a very strong connection to the people that will be there? In which case I would ask, why go?
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It's true that I didn't want to go, but that's really just due to the distance. Any awkwardness was more due to the fact that this was obviously being kept from me for some reason. But I went, was welcomed, and got to refresh acquaintances that were sore from lack of use, and I got to support people who needed it, and reminisce on better times. And I got to fill in many of those gaps I mentioned. Learned a lot. For instance, I didn't know they'd won two daytime Emmys. There's still a lot more I've missed. Made some plans to catch up the rest in future get-togethers. Oh yes, there will be more.

--Patrick
 
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