nah, not really, if you don't support equality because someone was mad about it, you don't really anyways???
He's saying the people who are potentially in the middle on something, who could be swayed to your side and agree with you, won't because you come off as an irrational screeching bat-monster. There are a number of us who've been on your side with a thing, try to discuss it with you, and are ignored because you're only interested in getting a pissed off reaction. Several of us have brought this up to you, in fact, and been ignored, because unless someone is angry at you, you didn't succeed and it's not worth your time.
Being on the right side of an issue is not an exclusive club, with your shitty personality as the bouncer. Being on the right side of an issue means explaining and educating, because while those of us who agree with you have our minds set and wouldn't be swayed by your agitation, the people who don't understand, don't know much about it, i.e. the people who could come to agree with you, will see your side of things as the wrong side.
It's been said to you and ignored by you many times, but here it is again: you hurt your own side. You hurt people on your side by your attitude. You hurt the people you allegedly want to help with manner of representing their interests. You make us seem less credible when you resort to the same trolling behavior as the people we're against.
and if you're nice and kind all the time, nothing ever changes
There was an article I read, written by a young black man who was protesting during the Ferguson protests (not in Ferguson, but another city as a show of unity). And the people causing problems, agitating the police, turning the peaceful protest into something else, were the white protestors. Later, he met up with some of the people who organized the protest, who were black and some of whom had been around in the 60s civil rights movements, and they told him the same thing used to happen then. White allies causing problems, unaware they were making things worse because they weren't the ones who would suffer for it.
Who does that remind me of?
The point of difference in when aggression is the necessary mode for change is not for you, the person with privilege, to decide.
Charlie might read two words of this and then skip the rest without response, so I'm not sure why I bother, but then, why do any of us bother in these situations?