Yeah, no. That's not how pedophiles work at all.
It isn't how homosexuality works, either. Or bestiality. But there
are more homosexual contacts in situations where heterosexual contact is not available, and there
are more interspecies sexual contacts when no human sexual contact is possible.
I'm not saying pedophilia
only happens because the guy can't get a girl. Or even that
most pedophiles are like that. Or anything. I'm saying that some of these pedophile priests might, either, have been able to suppress that specific urge, or might not have felt the urge strong enought o even register in the first place.
Let's make the statement stronger and get even more people to disagree with me, because hey, shitstorms are fun. I'm firmly of the belief that pedosexuality, just like homosexuality, just like furriness, just like bestiality, or asexuality, or heterosexuality, or half-a-dozen other sexual preferences, is not a binary thing, but a sliding scale. I'm also of the belief that the
preference is not necessarily something you can do about. People have been tryingto "convert" homosexuals since long before either of us was born. Some gay people marry and have children and so on to push back their own urges and to deny themselves. Doesn't make them any more or less homosexual.
The reason
why pedosexuality or bestiality are
not acceptable, whereas, say, "interracial" coupling (by which I mean "people of seemingly different ethnicity) or homosexuality
are acceptable,
to me, is a matter of
informed consent. A child, or animal, or some of the more heavily mentally handicapped, are
not capable of consenting, and hence, cannot enter into a balanced sexual relationship. Any sexual relationship is, therefore, abuse at the very least.
This is very important. A lot of people are afraid of the slippery slope: first we allowed people to marry outside their social status, then skin colour, then... now it's outside of the "proper" gender roles, next up children and after that animals and so on and so on. I'm of the opinion that there
is no such slippery slope because, to me, the line is clear and well-drawn (with the possible exception of mentally handicapped: I have some issues but I'm capable of consent, whereas some others have a comparative mental age of 1 or 2 - they're clearly incapable...But where do you draw
that line?): honest, open, freely given and informed consent by all partners? That's a "fair" relationship that can work (there are obviously still a lot of other factors at work; you know full well I'm not asserting there's no abuse in such a relationship or that such relationships are always good or balanced. Very far from it). One partner who can't give consent? Stay the fuck away from him/her/it/... .
In this sense, I'm convinced a pedosexual can't be "blamed" for being sexually attracted to children. He
can be blamed for not seeking help and controlling his urges. "I couldn't restrain myself" isn't an excuse for rape amongst heterosexuals, it isn't an excuse amongst anything else. You're aware that what you're doing is wrong, don't do it.
All of this is aimed at people who are sexually attracted to children. It is
not targeted at people who prey on children
because they are weak/incapable of resisting/psychological damage from their youth/whatever, who can often engage in sexual acts with children, while actually being hardly or not sexually attracted to children - similar to men raping men in war scenarios, while maintaining their heterosexuality. Whole 'nother kettle of fish. There we're talking about sociopaths, psychopaths or otherwise deranged individuals.
Mind experiment if you're going to disagree about consent being the issue: if we put the mind of an adult in a child's body, could that person have sex with someone without it being wrong? If not, where does it start or stop? Plenty of 40-year-old women have no hips, small-to-no breasts, shave away their pubes, etc etc. Where
else but in consent can you draw a line, that's not based out of religion or personal preference?