The Random Crap Thread 2: It Hits the Fan.

Squidleybits

Squidleybits

Pud often sleeps on me. Sadly, I can't get him to sleep on the right place to be heating pad because he's so huge now that it would hurt :( He used to be so cute and little. He just came over and gave me the stink eye. He knows I'm talking shit about him!
 
sixpackshaker

sixpackshaker

Squidleybits said:
Pud often sleeps on me. Sadly, I can't get him to sleep on the right place to be heating pad because he's so huge now that it would hurt :( He used to be so cute and little. He just came over and gave me the stink eye. He knows I'm talking shit about him!
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I need a catch phrase for Pud being Hobo's pet name...

Like, sounds like Nick's prom nite!
 
drawn_inward

drawn_inward

Not sure where to put this.

There's a guy that works near me on the same floor that is a total loudmouth ass. Pompous blowhard. He hates Trump, but exudes that same Trump charisma; go figure. He berates tech-support and his wife and kids quite loudly at his desk. He's a chump.

Anyhow, due to grant funding issues he is losing his job. This sucks. I do feel bad about that. Schadenfreude isn't really my bag (well, a little bit), but when said he boasted that he has jobs lined up and "inside" guys at several biotech firms, and then doesn't get any of the jobs. I sort of felt a bit of the freudy feeling. However, this morning he comes in on crutches b/c he broke his leg over the weekend. Now, he's fucked. He's going to be out of a job soon with no real prospects, and is soon to have surgery and all sorts of terribleness heading his way. Now, I feel quite bad for smirking over here at my desk in past few weeks.
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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A door here at the station that I have opened (and opened easily) almost every day for 14 years now suddenly sits so crooked in its frame that it sticks when you try to open it, and you really gotta yank to get it.

Of course, the first place my mind goes is "SINKHOLE"

Second place is "I'm glad my office isn't on this side of the building."
 
DarkAudit

DarkAudit

GasBandit said:
A door here at the station that I have opened (and opened easily) almost every day for 14 years now suddenly sits so crooked in its frame that it sticks when you try to open it, and you really gotta yank to get it.

Of course, the first place my mind goes is "SINKHOLE"

Second place is "I'm glad my office isn't on this side of the building."
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How suddenly is suddenly? Is Arnie Pye going to be hovering over the remains of the station by dinnertime?
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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DarkAudit said:
How suddenly is suddenly? Is Arnie Pye going to be hovering over the remains of the station by dinnertime?
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I didn't try it monday, but friday that door opened smooth and clear. So either the foundation decided to settle last weekend after at least 14 years of not moving, or I'mma be on the news soon.
 
DarkAudit

DarkAudit

GasBandit said:
I didn't try it monday, but friday that door opened smooth and clear. So either the foundation decided to settle last weekend after at least 14 years of not moving, or I'mma be on the news soon.
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I'd take a good look at that side of the building, inside and out. You may have bigger problems than getting ready for Thursday's Cowboys game.
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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DarkAudit said:
I'd take a good look at that side of the building, inside and out. You may have bigger problems than getting ready for Thursday's Cowboys game.
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The general manager has been alerted. I've done *my* part :p

Fortunately for me, it's over where the spanish and urban stations are, so if they fall in a hole, it'll miss my office and my studio.

But then again, it'll be that much more work for me to fix (along with the engineer)...

Maybe it'd be better if the sinkhole got me.
 
Yoshimickster

Yoshimickster

Apparently I met Kato Kaelin in passing at comic con...where he was performing as the main stage entertainment...thought he was an impersonator, but it was him...weird.
 
ThatNickGuy

ThatNickGuy

I asked for a profile review on the Plenty of Fish forums. One guy said all of my pictures looked "unflattering" except the one from New Years in my big red winter jacket. I asked them to elaborate but they haven't responded yet.

I'm not upset by what they said, but I certainly don't understand what they mean. Not sure if you can see the profile without being a member, but it's here.
 
Gared

Gared

You in the red coat looks like a good guy to grab a drink and hang out with, all the others kind of look like they might be trying too hard.
 
strawman

strawman

I can see it, and though I'm not sure what he means we can play a game of "one of these things is not like the others" to discern differences. Most of the other pictures show you in a state of exhaustion/exertion, and all of the other pictures have background objects in focus, so the other pictures have more distractions apart from you.

In the red jacket photo you look happy, not tired, and the rest of the photo has no distractions due to the movement in the background. You appear relaxed.

The one photo of you sitting and reading looks a little staged because it seems like your eyes aren't on the book, and your body doesn't seem relaxed.

I guess the other big difference is every other photo has you in sleeveless shirts.
 
ThatNickGuy

ThatNickGuy

Gared said:
all the others kind of look like they might be trying too hard.
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That's not my intention at all. :([DOUBLEPOST=1501686341,1501686278][/DOUBLEPOST]
stienman said:
The one photo of you sitting and reading looks a little staged because it seems like your eyes aren't on the book, and your body doesn't seem relaxed.
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It was staged, to be fair. Impromptu staged, since I just asked Mom to snap the picture while I was reading.[DOUBLEPOST=1501686456][/DOUBLEPOST]Okay, now I'm upset and pissed off because they think the orange tank top picture makes it look like I have man-boobs.

Starting to feel like shit now.
 
Bubble181

Bubble181

stienman said:
I can see it, and though I'm not sure what he means we can play a game of "one of these things is not like the others" to discern differences. Most of the other pictures show you in a state of exhaustion/exertion, and all of the other pictures have background objects in focus, so the other pictures have more distractions apart from you.

In the red jacket photo you look happy, not tired, and the rest of the photo has no distractions due to the movement in the background. You appear relaxed.

The one photo of you sitting and reading looks a little staged because it seems like your eyes aren't on the book, and your body doesn't seem relaxed.

I guess the other big difference is every other photo has you in sleeveless shirts.
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Not sleeveless on June 24th, either ;)

Anyway, I do think I prefer the January picture, too. None of the others strike me as a bad picture, in themselves - on the contrary - but the set together comes off.... I dunno, I'm having a hard time putting it into words. But they're all fairly "staged" pictures (or they come off as such) of you during sports. Imagine a jock whose pictures are of him, with a big smile, playing basketball, then him, with a big smile and a thumbs up, playing football, next him, with a big smile and all in sweat, holding up a counter saying he just did 400 push-ups. Even if it's a great guy and fun to hang out with and with a great sense of humour, you're probably going to get another first impression.

If it were up to me - and it isn't - I'd probably take out the bike and June 24th pics, and try to replace them with you in a more relaxed setting/position, amongst friends or some such? Or maybe one more "dressed" (by which I don't necessarily mean "full suit")?
 
strawman

strawman

ThatNickGuy said:
Okay, now I'm upset and pissed off because they think the orange tank top picture makes it look like I have man-boobs.

Starting to feel like shit now.
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Well obviously you don't, so it's not you, it's the photo. Keep in mind that they are not critiquing you, they are critiquing your photos, and while it's easy to assume a bad photo tells the truth, that's simply not true. Lighting, angle, body position, composition, etc all affect, sometimes drastically, what the photo conveys.

So please don't take it personally. Take their suggestions seriously as critiques of the photos, not of you, and evaluate the photos as dispassionately as you can, throwing away those which don't flatter you, and choosing a path forward to put up more flattering photos of you.
 
strawman

strawman

I hope you don't.

It's not a bad profile.

There are some improvements you can make, sure, but every profile can be improved.

Don't throw it away just because there are a few things you now realize you might want to change.
 
Bubble181

Bubble181

ThatNickGuy said:
Okay, now I'm upset and pissed off because they think the orange tank top picture makes it look like I have man-boobs.

Starting to feel like shit now.
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I disagree (not about you getting pissed, obviously). TThey show you have nipples, sure, but last time I checked we pretty much all have those. To me that picture looks like you have chest muscles.

One other thing that I'd say, and I really don't mean this in a negative way, as I face the same issue, is that, because you're struggling with depression, sometimes a smile - a genuine smile - can come off as "too much", and thus, "fake", even if it isn't. I'm sure you felt pumped and ready to go in the "before" mud run picture, but if you compare the smile in either that or the "after" pic, to the smile in the red jacket picture, they look "forced". And no, I don't know an easy fix, and yes, I know it's a pretty crappy thing to hear :confused: because , at least for me when I first heard that, it sounded like "man, you don't even know how to laugh anymore, you piece of failure!", which, you know, really isn't what I mean or want you to take away from this.
 
ThatNickGuy

ThatNickGuy

stienman said:
I hope you don't.

It's not a bad profile.

There are some improvements you can make, sure, but every profile can be improved.

Don't throw it away just because there are a few things you now realize you might want to change.
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It's because all these pictures I thought were good, everyone seems to think they're shit. They're basically all the "good" pictures I have. Certainly recent, anyway.

Besides, it's not like I'm getting any messages or replies from any girls on the site, anyway. Seriously, none.
 
Gared

Gared

ThatNickGuy said:
At this point, I'm probably just going to delete the profile altogether.
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That may be a bit far. One thing to think about is that I'm looking at this from a very different point of view than the person you're looking for on a dating site. I was thinking about specifically why I'd rather hang out with relaxed smiling you than sporty fun loving you; and honestly - and I really, really mean this - it's not you, it's me. Sports, fitness, and yoga aren't really that important in my overall life, aside from pushing my diabetes into remission, but they're a big part of your life. Because of that, you emphasize the fitness side of things on your profile. If I were actually looking for someone, I would tend toward the quiet/shy/nerdy type and away from the biker/runner/yogi type, just because of my own hangups about athletes.

I think if you continue to explain how important the fitness side is, but bring in some more of your relaxed photos, you'll hit a nice balance.
 
strawman

strawman

ThatNickGuy said:
It's because all these pictures I thought were good, everyone seems to think they're shit. They're basically all the "good" pictures I have. Certainly recent, anyway.

Besides, it's not like I'm getting any messages or replies from any girls on the site, anyway. Seriously, none.
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Then it won't hurt you to leave it up, and in fact you might try experimenting with it.

Take some pictures that you feel aren't as good as these but show you in different situations or with different expressions, and replace a few, then wait a week and see if you get a different response. Take some new (yes, staged) photos that expand your profile in different directions. You've got fitness, outdoors, and reading down. What else would make an interesting picture?

Replace pictures every week and do, essentially, a marketing survey to find out what gets people to respond. Yes, you want to present an authentic representation of yourself, but you also want to sell yourself to the women you would be interested in dating. What are they looking for, and how can you convey yourself in pictures as the person they are looking for?
 
Adam

Adam

PatrThom said:
Maybe they'll look better if you include your wife?

--Patrick
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I considered the same thing!

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But in all seriousness, back when I was still in the dating game, POF was brutal. I looked and felt like a complete tool in all of my pictures and definitely never received any messages. Nick has a much more proportionate body type than I ever had, and shows more personality. Serious POF envy; he's the type of guy I'd be terrified to be compared against.
 
PatrThom

PatrThom

Also remember that everyone who looks at your profile will judge your pictures against what they consider their "ideal," and everyone's ideal is different, so everyone will always be able to find something "wrong" with your profile pics no matter what you do. The whole reason you have the pics up there is so that someone looking for someone like you can find you. Not someone looking for you-but-taller, or you-but-darker, or you-but-thinner, etc.

--Patrick
 
DarkAudit

DarkAudit

Those guys on that forum see you as competition. They have motivation to trash your pictures. Do not expect a fair and honest assessment out of them.
 
Celt Z

Celt Z

I think you look pretty fit in the orange shirt. That and the red jacket ones are my favorites.
If I were surfing your profile, I would like those and maybe the one where you're holding the rope. I agree that the others don't feel as natural (and I'd limit your "thumbs-up" pics to 1). Over-all, I wouldn't be turned off by it, but it could use some tweaking.
 
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