I just remembered there was a guy at work a few years ago that would say my joke I just had said, I guess too quietly, and get big laughs every time. I dunno if we were just on the same brainwave a lot and he had also not heard it but the first time it happened I think I could have believed that, but it happened so often there is almost no way it was just a coincidence every time.
It bothered me, yet at the same time confirmed something I'd always known about myself, that I was a writer, not a performer.
I had my dad text his family members that didn’t RSVP and one of them said he was “probably coming.” Like, the save the dates went out over 6 months ago and the invitations themselves a month and a half ago. The invitations explicitly say to send them back by August 6th (attentive readers might notice that’s two days from now).If any of you are ever invited to a wedding, send in the RSVP the day you get the invitation. Such a pain in the ass wrangling these up.
I had my dad text his family members that didn’t RSVP and one of them said he was “probably coming.” Like, the save the dates went out over 6 months ago and the invitations themselves a month and a half ago. The invitations explicitly say to send them back by August 6th (attentive readers might notice that’s two days from now).
When I brought this up to my dad he told me that “People have lives and issues. They can’t always fit your time line.”
I don’t believe he’s having a major crisis. I just think this wasn’t particularly important to him and he didn’t think about it for the months he’s known this was coming. I have literally never met this person in my life and couldn’t care less if he’s there or not. I just need an answer becuase there are a million logistical questions that depend on what the guest count is.
dude I have been on the receiving end of these, and I always feel like an asshole saying no, don't expect me, because my friends who have gotten married are always like "you really aren't coming? what about sending a gift?" dog, I haven't talked to you since middle school, you sent me a rsvp and I can appreciate it that, but no and no. I have a standing rule that just assume I'm a no for all social obligations unless there is literally no way I can avoid it. Yes, I realize what that sounds like, I don't like people, and covid has made me fiercely antisocial. You did nothing wrong, but I don't want to be at your wedding, I have no interest in your reception, we don't talk, and I have no interest in your life event as you have made no attempt to keep a friendship together or even speak to me outside of inviting me to your thing. I wish you only the best, may you go with god, I'm going back to my vegetative state.I would consider 5€ (Or whatever the USD equivalent is) to be an incredibly cheap gift, and more insulting than nothing at all. Maybe it’s different in Europe but I give $50 per guest the gift is “from” at the minimum.
I put on the notices that the venue will only have seating for those who RSVP. I put it in LARGE, BOLD WRITING. Basically, if you don't RSVP, don't bother showing up. And then I added 10 meals/places just in case.Unfortunately, I have the same issue with a lot of my family--they just won't RSVP but would get insulted if they showed up and there was no place for them to sit.
I solved it by sending RSVP notices, and then only sending venue information for those who verified they were coming. For those (very few) people who asked me at the last minute where it was, I told them "We only have seating/food/drinks for the folks who RSVPd, so sorry" and then didn't tell them venue information.
Maybe that hurt some feelings, but you know, maybe don't be a dick in the first place by expecting me to accommodate your inconsiderate ass.
We had a pig roast at mine. And only a few people at the ceremony. Reception was middle - maybe 100 people.See, this is why our entire wedding party was only 25 people. Everyone showed, we all had a good time, and even if everyone hadn’t come, we still wouldn’t have had any huge issue with the food qty.
So, the ex-girlfriend contacted me last week to try to reconcile. We've been talking. Then she asked me on a date for yesterday.I don't post too much about my personal life here. A little bit, but not too much.
Anyway, I've been here 10 months, and divorced 2 months, but essentially single that entire 10 months.
So, I got a girlfriend, dated a while, got tired of how she was treating me (for the last 6 weeks or so, we'd make plans for 3-4 days of the week, and she was no-call/no-showing most of them), so I broke up with her, and now I'm single again. /whine
Not to excuse her behavior, it's a shitty thing to do to someone, but this was pretty much my behavior when I was in the midst of a depressive spiral. I'd flake and miss events/dates/etc and then ghost the people I flaked on because explaining myself was too fucking much.So, the ex-girlfriend contacted me last week to try to reconcile. We've been talking. Then she asked me on a date for yesterday.
No-call/no-show, and ghosting me when I tried to find out if she was going to show up to the restaurant.
Yeah, I'm not beating myself up about it. And I don't know what's going on with her. It's reasonable that she could be going through something like that. But I've made my best efforts here, and am not obligated to put up with the bullshit. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, thoughNot to excuse her behavior, it's a shitty thing to do to someone, but this was pretty much my behavior when I was in the midst of a depressive spiral. I'd flake and miss events/dates/etc and then ghost the people I flaked on because explaining myself was too fucking much.
She could also just be an asshole, but either way I'm saying it's probably not you.