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I have some amusing experience with two dating sites and most of what I experienced follows exactly what Jay said with one exception. I did meet my wife on PlentyofFish.com but I had to sift through a LOT of crap and rejection to find her. Let's just say that I agree with Jay's assement of what most women on sites like that are after.

My wife showed me what her inbox from PlentyofFish looked like once we had been dating for a few weeks... it was completely full, she had thousands of views and a ton of weirdos had "favorited" her (or whatever it's called). Most of the emails were dudes wanting to see her boobs and propositions for sex though... still... there were a large amount of dudes simply trying to find someone to be with.

I signed up for eHarmony once... they said they were sorry but I couldn't be matched with anyone at that time. Way to help out my ego there eHarmony... bastards... :)
 
Well, apparently the girl dropped off the planet again. We chatted over Facebook on Tuesday. On Thursday I texted her, asking if I could make a quick call to her on Friday (or an e-mail if she preferred). No response. So I just sent her an e-mail wishing her luck on the GRE and a Happy Halloween, and that we should find a time and place to meet up if it was still all right with her. I'm leaving it in her court now. If she gets back to me, great. If not, that would kinda suck because we've got a lot in common but at least I didn't put all my eggs in one basket.

In other news, I had a first date with another of my matches yesterday. It was pretty good and I'm gonna give her a call later today, like I said I would.
 
She didn't drop off the face of the planet, she's dating at least one person from the online site while talking to you.
 
Now she's talking to me again and said I could call her tomorrow.

Is there something about dating logic that I should know about? There's so many twists and cul de sacs. It's wild.
 

Necronic

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I would say one thing you should keep in mind is that when it isn't serious, don't treat it seriously. It's really hard not to when you are really into someone, but when you are at a stage where you have not even met up, don't put too many eggs in that basket. It's something I see guys fall into all the time. Like with this girl, who knows why she you couldn't get ahold of her for a couple of days. Honestly, it doesn't even really matter. Because for right now, it's not serious.

Also, your post count = 666
 
I'm half-Asian, so will I need to peruse penises with one eye closed?

And I know it's not too serious, which is why I'm communicating with other girls. In fact, I had a date with one of them last week. She broke it off over e-mail the next day >_< but that's beside the point. I'm not getting too attached, but at the same time I kinda want this to work.
 
You had one date. What was there to break off?
This is how I define the act in which romantic interpersonal communication ends.

If it ends...
Before the first date: rejection
After one date: breaking things off
After having gone on multiple dates: dumping or breaking things off
After having established a committed relationship: breakup

If there is a more appropriate way to define it, let me know. No, I didn't think the other girl and I were together in case you were wondering that. She said she didn't want to juggle a relationship and school at the same time. I respected her decision and said I bore her no ill will. And since she's a vet student and I'm a history grad student, we're on opposite sides of the campus and won't have to see each other again. Thus, we can avoid the craziness that happens when people break the Platinum Rule.
 
Before the first date: Rejection based on prejudice
After the first date: Rejection upon confirmation of prejudice
After multiple dates: Breaking things off
After both parties commit: Breakup
 
Before the first date: Apathy.
After the first date: You had something stuck in your teeth.
After multiple dates: Apathy.
After committing longer-term: Apathy.
 
One date isn't "breaking it off" - there's no it to break off. You just don't get a second date.

It's like, after a job interview, if they don't call you back, you didn't get fired, you just didn't get hired.

In fact, that's basically what a first date is - an interview for the job of 'significant other'.
 
One date isn't "breaking it off" - there's no it to break off. You just don't get a second date.

It's like, after a job interview, if they don't call you back, you didn't get fired, you just didn't get hired.

In fact, that's basically what a first date is - an interview for the job of 'significant other'.
Rejection is rejection is rejection.

 
Just letting you all know that the match and I have been talking a lot over the past month or so. Since school is finally winding down we've got some spare time and we're going out next Tuesday. YATTA!!!

As an aside, the girl hates talking on the phone. She's into texting, e-mail, Facebook, and Skype video chats, but she hates the phone for some reason. Weird, eh?
 
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Just letting you all know that the match and I have been talking a lot over the past month or so. Since school is finally winding down we've got some spare time and we're going out next Tuesday. YATTA!!!

As an aside, the girl hates talking on the phone. She's into texting, e-mail, Facebook, and Skype video chats, but she hates the phone for some reason. Weird, eh?
Well... not at all. My wife HATES talking on the phone too (she does that all day in call center) she loves to text. Also, sometimes you can "correct" a text while typing, but hard to take back if you accidentally said something.

Good luck on your relationship. As other have said, just enjoy each other company and learn more about each other. don't take it too serious or you might scare the girl off ;)
 
Good luck on your relationship. As other have said, just enjoy each other company and learn more about each other. don't take it too serious or you might scare the girl off ;)
So she won't be impressed that I downloaded the floor plans to every place she's ever lived in?
 
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Chibibar

Good luck on your relationship. As other have said, just enjoy each other company and learn more about each other. don't take it too serious or you might scare the girl off ;)
So she won't be impressed that I downloaded the floor plans to every place she's ever lived in?[/QUOTE]

not unless you are planning to do a major "seek out the clue" date with her. like leaving little clues around the building that will lead her to the actual date site :)
 
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Just letting you all know that the match and I have been talking a lot over the past month or so. Since school is finally winding down we've got some spare time and we're going out next Tuesday. YATTA!!!

As an aside, the girl hates talking on the phone. She's into texting, e-mail, Facebook, and Skype video chats, but she hates the phone for some reason. Weird, eh?
Nope, I hate talking on the phone and much prefer texting.
 

GasBandit

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I hate talking on the phone too, but it's because the rampant overabundance of cell phones has annihilated accepted standards of call quality. Even the smartest smartphone these days is absolute balls on call quality compared to a good old fashioned land line... but you just can't get away from them, so any phone call sounds like absolute ass.
 
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