I hear ya. There are so many encapsulated stories like that, if you happen to stumble over them.
--Patrick
The Random Crap Thread 2: It Hits the Fan.
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--Patrick
But, it's haaaard!
Okay, how about this! Let's AMA it up again! No holds barred AMA in my thread, go ask me things everyone! All the things you were afraid to ask me before, but now nothing will stop you.
Aww, that's so cuuuute!!
If you ever need a guest again, I'd be happy to do it! It was fun.
Well, I know. But this is like, true. Someone's kid really died. The shoe story is just sort of made up as an example, n'est-ce pas?
GasBandit
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Child mortality rates were very high in the early 20th century. My great grandmother and her two sisters were the 3 kids out of 9 who survived past 8.
Oh, I know. My own family has stories like that, and I see it in my job probably every day. For some reason yesterday that farmer's simple line hit me as tragic, while most days it's just something I tap out into the database, another stat. It wasn't specifically that it was child mortality of the day, it was that particular file affecting me for no reason I can clearly give. I just thought it odd.
C'est la, that was just the first example I could think of that involved a minimum of words but left volumes unsaid. The fact that it is fiction was immaterial to what I was trying to say.
--Patrick
I suppose I misinterpreted your comment, since that wasn't how I was thinking about the file. But, maybe it is the minimal wordage in the file that got me. I hadn't thought of that. Interesting.
When I see stuff like that in real life, I always feel like the omission is deliberate, and that plus my creative imagination gets me to wondering what it was that got left out, and why.
There are pictures that do this to me, too.
--Patrick
I often feel like an impostor when giving people advice. I have certain "rules" about, the two most primary ones are not to judge the person or their situation, and to only give advice if it is solicited. I break even these primary rules sometimes, but that's not really the point.
Part of my conflict is that I myself may not have faced their struggle or having faced it, may not have actually resolved it. And I come to doubt the usefulness of it, or even fear it may be damaging. I tell people my advice isn't instruction to be followed but ideas to be considered: I do not say this as a cop-out or something, I really do view my advice this way. I don't have it in me to tell people what to do, and I worry that if I did, I would end up violating the rule that I should not judge them if they were to do something other than what I said.
Anyway. For one reason or another, I am often the one people come to for advice, which I'm happy to offer when I can. At the least I'm happy to listen. And I've discovered that it gives me to confidence to offer advice when asked generally, like here on the forum, and not specifically of me. Still I try not to step in with advice if someone is just ranting or venting (as I say, I break that rule sometimes, workin' on it
).
But I had a moment the other evening, discussing a problem a friend was having. I realised, as I gave her my thoughts on the matter, that it was precisely the advice that I myself needed for a similar problem, though I had failed to connect the two until after she had left.
It helped my fears of not being able to help others just because I too have problems. It was a demonstration that even having the very same problem, I could help someone with it, and unwittingly, after-the-fact, learn something about myself, for myself.
Part of my conflict is that I myself may not have faced their struggle or having faced it, may not have actually resolved it. And I come to doubt the usefulness of it, or even fear it may be damaging. I tell people my advice isn't instruction to be followed but ideas to be considered: I do not say this as a cop-out or something, I really do view my advice this way. I don't have it in me to tell people what to do, and I worry that if I did, I would end up violating the rule that I should not judge them if they were to do something other than what I said.
Anyway. For one reason or another, I am often the one people come to for advice, which I'm happy to offer when I can. At the least I'm happy to listen. And I've discovered that it gives me to confidence to offer advice when asked generally, like here on the forum, and not specifically of me. Still I try not to step in with advice if someone is just ranting or venting (as I say, I break that rule sometimes, workin' on it
).But I had a moment the other evening, discussing a problem a friend was having. I realised, as I gave her my thoughts on the matter, that it was precisely the advice that I myself needed for a similar problem, though I had failed to connect the two until after she had left.
It helped my fears of not being able to help others just because I too have problems. It was a demonstration that even having the very same problem, I could help someone with it, and unwittingly, after-the-fact, learn something about myself, for myself.
GasBandit
Staff member
Well, obviously Dad is an astronaut.When I see stuff like that in real life, I always feel like the omission is deliberate, and that plus my creative imagination gets me to wondering what it was that got left out, and why.
There are pictures that do this to me, too.
--Patrick
I often feel like an impostor when giving people advice. I have certain "rules" about, the two most primary ones are not to judge the person or their situation, and to only give advice if it is solicited. I break even these primary rules sometimes, but that's not really the point.
Part of my conflict is that I myself may not have faced their struggle or having faced it, may not have actually resolved it. And I come to doubt the usefulness of it, or even fear it may be damaging. I tell people my advice isn't instruction to be followed but ideas to be considered: I do not say this as a cop-out or something, I really do view my advice this way. I don't have it in me to tell people what to do, and I worry that if I did, I would end up violating the rule that I should not judge them if they were to do something other than what I said.
Anyway. For one reason or another, I am often the one people come to for advice, which I'm happy to offer when I can. At the least I'm happy to listen. And I've discovered that it gives me to confidence to offer advice when asked generally, like here on the forum, and not specifically of me. Still I try not to step in with advice if someone is just ranting or venting (as I say, I break that rule sometimes, workin' on it
But I had a moment the other evening, discussing a problem a friend was having. I realised, as I gave her my thoughts on the matter, that it was precisely the advice that I myself needed for a similar problem, though I had failed to connect the two until after she had left.
It helped my fears of not being able to help others just because I too have problems. It was a demonstration that even having the very same problem, I could help someone with it, and unwittingly, after-the-fact, learn something about myself, for myself.
See, this is why you'd make a great counselor or clinician.
I was thinking Jesus.
Seriously. I actually first thought it was another sticker for an astronaut, not a stain.
Again with the being nice... Don't you know I'm trying to be down on myself constantly?! You're not helping!
No niceness intended, I swear! Being a counselor seems like it would be a horrible drag!
You know what is helping, though? Your advice!
Bahaha...! Well, I hope so.
>Implying they were married
Dude.I often feel like an impostor when giving people advice. I have certain "rules" about, the two most primary ones are not to judge the person or their situation, and to only give advice if it is solicited. I break even these primary rules sometimes, but that's not really the point.
Part of my conflict is that I myself may not have faced their struggle or having faced it, may not have actually resolved it. And I come to doubt the usefulness of it, or even fear it may be damaging. I tell people my advice isn't instruction to be followed but ideas to be considered: I do not say this as a cop-out or something, I really do view my advice this way. I don't have it in me to tell people what to do, and I worry that if I did, I would end up violating the rule that I should not judge them if they were to do something other than what I said.
Anyway. For one reason or another, I am often the one people come to for advice, which I'm happy to offer when I can. At the least I'm happy to listen. And I've discovered that it gives me to confidence to offer advice when asked generally, like here on the forum, and not specifically of me. Still I try not to step in with advice if someone is just ranting or venting (as I say, I break that rule sometimes, workin' on it
But I had a moment the other evening, discussing a problem a friend was having. I realised, as I gave her my thoughts on the matter, that it was precisely the advice that I myself needed for a similar problem, though I had failed to connect the two until after she had left.
It helped my fears of not being able to help others just because I too have problems. It was a demonstration that even having the very same problem, I could help someone with it, and unwittingly, after-the-fact, learn something about myself, for myself.
Dude.
You just described me.
This happens to me all the time.
That was what I thought when I first saw it, too!
Then I realized what it was, and I started to go all Castle on it.
Divorce. Death. Bad fight. Deployment. Disapproving in-laws (or son) snuck in and removed it. Prison. Asylum. Gender reassignment surgery. Even something as simple as bird poo on the old one.
...and it only really shows up in the rain...it's like a ghost that only shows up when it's raining.
Stooryyyy...
--Patrick
GasBandit
Staff member
Super run-away!PHANTOM SPACE MAN!
I FEEL SO INCREDIBLY AWESOME RIGHT NOW! And I ain't even DRUNK!
Okay I need to know, what sticker?
Scroll up until you find a picture containing things that look like stickers. Once you have reached this picture, stop scrolling up. You have reached the sticker that everybody is talking about.
Ooooooooooooh, that thing. I never registered stickers like that AS stickers, I don't know why.
Two over.