BHAMV, right in the kisser!
I just had sex thread
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And on the flipside, I'd like to think many of us are mature enough to know where we came from and not really care about it anymore.
So... I guess this is a good place to post this given that this was mainly documented in this thread.
I was pretty much broken up with tonight, but there are caveats to that statement.
/warning, incoming wall of text
Here's the deal. As you all probably know, I'm currently going to grad school for my masters in experimental psychology. A few months ago, I met a guy online. We got together and hit it off right off the bat. He is a sweet, understanding, polite and downright gorgeous man. We have social and sexual chemistry coming out of our asses (BOOM, phrasing!).
So, why are we breaking up? Well, the long and the short of it, is that I'm an idiot. I have a long history of dating horrible people. I mean, like REALLY horrible people. The last guy that I was interested in basically didn't share that interest, but didn't have the heart to tell me because he was being too nice. So, he basically strung me along because he just didn't have the heart to tell me that he just wanted to see other people and that we weren't going to work out. So that ended as badly as you would expect. As a consequence, when I met the guy I've been seeing, I thought I had to play it cool and close to the chest. He wasn't sure if he wanted a commitment, and I responded in kind, saying that I'll probably be gone when I get my degree anyway, so we should just enjoy each other's company for as long as we can.
Tonight he called me and asked me to dinner, which was weird for him to do out of the blue, he'd never done that before. Apparently, he went on a date with someone and he's thinking about pursuing that. Now over the last couple of months, I've been developing serious feelings towards this guy, but refused to say so for fear that I would just drive him away. Unfortunately, come to find out tonight that it was exactly this lack of expression of these feelings is why he didn't think we would work out.
So, the guy that he is seeing is from Canada and is coming down next week to stay with the guy I was seeing for a week so they can explore the possibility of seeing each other seriously.
Basically, I have a week to lay all my cards on the table, and I intend to do it because I've never felt this connected with someone before and I want to make sure that he knows that. I let him know tonight that I want to try to make it work, so we're going to see each other again on tuesday and talk it out and such.
TLDNR version: I should have been honest the whole time, but was too chickenshit and it may cost me possibly a great relationship.
I was pretty much broken up with tonight, but there are caveats to that statement.
/warning, incoming wall of text
Here's the deal. As you all probably know, I'm currently going to grad school for my masters in experimental psychology. A few months ago, I met a guy online. We got together and hit it off right off the bat. He is a sweet, understanding, polite and downright gorgeous man. We have social and sexual chemistry coming out of our asses (BOOM, phrasing!).
So, why are we breaking up? Well, the long and the short of it, is that I'm an idiot. I have a long history of dating horrible people. I mean, like REALLY horrible people. The last guy that I was interested in basically didn't share that interest, but didn't have the heart to tell me because he was being too nice. So, he basically strung me along because he just didn't have the heart to tell me that he just wanted to see other people and that we weren't going to work out. So that ended as badly as you would expect. As a consequence, when I met the guy I've been seeing, I thought I had to play it cool and close to the chest. He wasn't sure if he wanted a commitment, and I responded in kind, saying that I'll probably be gone when I get my degree anyway, so we should just enjoy each other's company for as long as we can.
Tonight he called me and asked me to dinner, which was weird for him to do out of the blue, he'd never done that before. Apparently, he went on a date with someone and he's thinking about pursuing that. Now over the last couple of months, I've been developing serious feelings towards this guy, but refused to say so for fear that I would just drive him away. Unfortunately, come to find out tonight that it was exactly this lack of expression of these feelings is why he didn't think we would work out.
So, the guy that he is seeing is from Canada and is coming down next week to stay with the guy I was seeing for a week so they can explore the possibility of seeing each other seriously.
Basically, I have a week to lay all my cards on the table, and I intend to do it because I've never felt this connected with someone before and I want to make sure that he knows that. I let him know tonight that I want to try to make it work, so we're going to see each other again on tuesday and talk it out and such.
TLDNR version: I should have been honest the whole time, but was too chickenshit and it may cost me possibly a great relationship.
btdt. I hope you two can work things out. *hugs*
Just the quote right at 26 seconds.
On my end of the bonezone. My genitals hurt from the amount of she's going into the field tomorrow sex we had today.
I would never besmirch Sammi's honor in such a way, sir!
...where his wife and her dad can see.
My parents have been divorced for 40+ years, and remarried other people since, so that would be REALLY awkward.
At least they're both still alive, so it's not as awkward as it could be...
--Patrick
I almost posted a Batman pic, but then I was afraid people would take it seriously
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I kinda regret not posting in this thread back when it was more pertinent. But if she'd have found out, she'd probably have been cranky with me, which means I wouldn't have had the reason to do so as often as I did.
Also you guys might have gotten tired of me posting in it just about every day around lunch.
If he is that awesome, fight for him!!
Well, on the plus side. Amazing sex.
On the minus side, I still don't know where I stand yet. I guess we'll have to see how this visit from the Canadian guy goes.
I did ask him if this was goodbye forever and he said that it wasn't. I told him that I think what we have is something worthwhile and that I want to try to make it work.
I told him to go ahead and do what he feels he needs to do, but that him screwing another guy for a week doesn't exactly thrill me. But if this guy turns out to everything he's ever wanted, then have at it. I just made it clear that if that's the case, he needs to let me know in no uncertain terms. I can't deal with being strung along. He said that he would never do that and that he will keep in contact.
I may or may not be seeing him again tomorrow night, it all depends on how long work goes for him.
So, basically, I'm back in limbo for at least a week and a half. It may be the pessimist in me, but I don't think that it's going to go my way. It never does in the romance department.
What annoys me the most is that I have been perfectly happy being unattached for the bulk of my life, and now this guy comes into my world and blindsides me.
On the minus side, I still don't know where I stand yet. I guess we'll have to see how this visit from the Canadian guy goes.
I did ask him if this was goodbye forever and he said that it wasn't. I told him that I think what we have is something worthwhile and that I want to try to make it work.
I told him to go ahead and do what he feels he needs to do, but that him screwing another guy for a week doesn't exactly thrill me. But if this guy turns out to everything he's ever wanted, then have at it. I just made it clear that if that's the case, he needs to let me know in no uncertain terms. I can't deal with being strung along. He said that he would never do that and that he will keep in contact.
I may or may not be seeing him again tomorrow night, it all depends on how long work goes for him.
So, basically, I'm back in limbo for at least a week and a half. It may be the pessimist in me, but I don't think that it's going to go my way. It never does in the romance department.
What annoys me the most is that I have been perfectly happy being unattached for the bulk of my life, and now this guy comes into my world and blindsides me.
*hugs*
"Three times?"
So... was that @CrimsonSoul hitting on me?
In other news, it's officially over with this guy. He basically told me that things would have been different if I had been upfront with him from the beginning that I was looking for a relationship. He said he thought I was just looking for a friend with benefits situation.
That being said, I did tell him it was kind of a dick move after I told him that I wanted to try to make it work that he proceeded to take me to a movie, hold hands through it, then have sex with me two days after that.
So, at least now I know.
I expect I will be a little bit of a whore in the immediate future. I tend to grief bang when a relationship is over. At least I don't drink now so I'll be more choosy about my partners and not engage in risky behaviors.
I'm surprisingly OK with it right now. I've basically spent the last week preparing for this to happen, so it didn't hit me as hard as I thought it would, probably because I already got my mourning for the relationship out of the way this week. I kind of knew that last tuesday was our last encounter because he kind of went out of his way to avoid talking to me and got right down to the banging.
So, c'est la vie.
On the plus side, the exam that I was stressing about all week turned out to be much easier than I thought it would be, so that's a point in my favor. I also have two super hot guys hitting on me. So, it's not all bad.
In other news, it's officially over with this guy. He basically told me that things would have been different if I had been upfront with him from the beginning that I was looking for a relationship. He said he thought I was just looking for a friend with benefits situation.
That being said, I did tell him it was kind of a dick move after I told him that I wanted to try to make it work that he proceeded to take me to a movie, hold hands through it, then have sex with me two days after that.
So, at least now I know.
I expect I will be a little bit of a whore in the immediate future. I tend to grief bang when a relationship is over. At least I don't drink now so I'll be more choosy about my partners and not engage in risky behaviors.
I'm surprisingly OK with it right now. I've basically spent the last week preparing for this to happen, so it didn't hit me as hard as I thought it would, probably because I already got my mourning for the relationship out of the way this week. I kind of knew that last tuesday was our last encounter because he kind of went out of his way to avoid talking to me and got right down to the banging.
So, c'est la vie.
On the plus side, the exam that I was stressing about all week turned out to be much easier than I thought it would be, so that's a point in my favor. I also have two super hot guys hitting on me. So, it's not all bad.
TIL @CrimsonSoul is super hot. I always had my suspicions.
Sounds like the guy liked having your attention and the other guy's, too. Kind of an asshole thing to do, really, getting your hopes up like that.
Enjoy all the rebound grief banging you can get. Grief bang ALL the sex.
Though if you pick up at a funeral, that might get weird.
Oh you!
Some people get better with age.
Well, stop interrupting to post about it. That's something most bangees consider "rude."
--Patrick
It's raining men..?
Well, I WOULD have been able to post this today. Hail the conquering hero and all that jazz. We had the place to ourselves, but didn't know for how long. So we went for a quickie...
...and literally RIGHT before we were gonna start (seriously; pants down, condom on), my mother gets home.
She didn't see anything, but we leapt out of the bed and pulled our respective pants up faster than a speeding bullet. Alix thought it was hilarious and kept teasing me about it all day with things like "DENIED!" and "NOT GONNA HAPPEN!"
Frigging cock-blocking mom.
...it's been about a month and a half for us, now, since the last time we had the chance to do the horizontal polka.
...and literally RIGHT before we were gonna start (seriously; pants down, condom on), my mother gets home.
She didn't see anything, but we leapt out of the bed and pulled our respective pants up faster than a speeding bullet. Alix thought it was hilarious and kept teasing me about it all day with things like "DENIED!" and "NOT GONNA HAPPEN!"
Frigging cock-blocking mom.
...it's been about a month and a half for us, now, since the last time we had the chance to do the horizontal polka.