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The Random Crap Thread 2: It Hits the Fan.
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At last I have a avatar. I conformed finally, are you happy Dave, huh? Huh?! 
GasBandit
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Well, crap. Now I'm completely unable to mentally associate your current persona with any post you've made in the past. It's like... somebody died, and somebody took their place, but the group is so large I can't exactly put my finger on who's missing.At last I have a avatar. I conformed finally, are you happy Dave, huh? Huh?!
This is exactly why I don't change my avatar. I'm me, dammit!
Which one are you again?
Pretty sure that's Chibi
Change. It fucks people up in ways you would never imagine. I'm still amazed at how much people hated me changing to The Greatest American Hero.
GasBandit
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Oh and by the way, in case you didn't notice, IT'S FRIDAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!
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I've been thinking about buying a new receiver since my old one is 13 years old. It only has RCA video out so I haven't used it as the centerpiece of my system in years. But it still does surround sound really well. Anyway it seems like the new ones all go nuts about streaming services and AirPlay and all that. Mine does that too--I just plug the 1/8th" to RCA cable into my phone and there you go.
Oh, no. These days it's all about buying a box that's locked to one service so you can throw it away once that service goes bankrupt/gets canceled and buy a new one.
--Patrick
I asked some questions about physiotherapy in an SI group and wow! Quite the debate!!
From what you've said of what it's like, I assume many SI folks are quick to say I HAVE SUFFERED WITH THIS THAT MAKES ME AN AUTHORITY WHAT RIGHT DO YOU HAVE TO CONTRADICT MY SUFFERING etc.
--Patrick
There is a ton of that there - people get pretty touchy. Someone was asked to leave one group because they had he competitor's fusion surgery....for real....
I thought that a question/concern about my physio would be low key....not so much.
I thought that a question/concern about my physio would be low key....not so much.
Today, during my lunch break, I went to the post office to take care of some business. While there, I noticed a female co-worker of mine descending the stairs from the second floor of the post office. Because of the angle of the stairs, I saw her legs first, then her torso, and finally her head. However, I'd recognized her before her head had even appeared.
Me: "Hey, I thought it was you! I recognized you from your body!"
Her: "..."
Me: "..."
Her: "..."
Me: "There's no way for me to rephrase or explain that without sounding creepy, is there."
Her: "No."
Me: "Hey, I thought it was you! I recognized you from your body!"
Her: "..."
Me: "..."
Her: "..."
Me: "There's no way for me to rephrase or explain that without sounding creepy, is there."
Her: "No."
I frequently recognize people at 100yds distance or more, just by their gait.
--Patrick
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Follow it up with a disarming eyebrow wag.
Maybe finger guns with the tongue click-click noise.
I learned a long time ago to restrain the urge to say things like that.
It took... several painful lessons in cringe, first.
It took... several painful lessons in cringe, first.
GasBandit
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A green haired boy checked my groceries last week. I greeted him with a "Happy St. Patrick's Day!"
I am an IRL troll.
I am an IRL troll.
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Anonymous
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So a guy I went to high school with just had his wife die. This alone is terrible and I feel for him, but I am at a loss of what to do. See, he's fairly cuckoo-pants. He's really, REALLY into government conspiracies, he's really, REALLY religious, and if he even sniffs that you give a damn he latches on like a bulldog and won't let go. He's also the main reason I haven't gone to any of my high school reunions.
So I'm torn. Do I be the bigger man and go support him and just hope he doesn't glom on? Or do I be a dick and just send him "I'm sorry!" on Facebook?
So I'm torn. Do I be the bigger man and go support him and just hope he doesn't glom on? Or do I be a dick and just send him "I'm sorry!" on Facebook?
GasBandit
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Do you have any other regular contact with him? If not, for how long have you been out of touch? If it's been quite a while, a sympathy card via the mail might be enough (and I'm saying that having gone through what you know I've gone through). But if you've done stuff together fairly recently, you might have to bite the bullet and soldier through the irritation for a bit.
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Facebook interactions for the most part. I tried to catch up a few years ago and it was a clusterfuck. Had he not been married at the time I think it would have been way worse.
Cajungal
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^In that case Gas is right. A card would be nice. It's kind of you to want to reach out, but everyone's tragedy can't be your problem. I have a facebook friend whom I've all but cut off, and I've learned not to reach out, even when something bad happens. I'm not willing to deal with the mess in an everyday capacity, and I don't want to give her any hope of that happening. It's better for both of us if I keep my distance.
It sounds like you aren't strong friends with him. When you've tried it has only shown you that you aren't really compatible.
Don't feel bad about sending a card or even a simple Facebook condolence. That's the level your friendship is at, and making it anything more may be seen as insincere or perfunctory anyway. If you never regularly got together prior to her death then there's no need to try and get together now.
Whatever relationship you've actually had - be it occasional Facebook messages, mail, or visits - don't do anything more than that unless you're trying to improve the relationship, and, honestly, a death isn't necessarily the time to be increasing your interest in them anyway.
Don't feel bad about sending a card or even a simple Facebook condolence. That's the level your friendship is at, and making it anything more may be seen as insincere or perfunctory anyway. If you never regularly got together prior to her death then there's no need to try and get together now.
Whatever relationship you've actually had - be it occasional Facebook messages, mail, or visits - don't do anything more than that unless you're trying to improve the relationship, and, honestly, a death isn't necessarily the time to be increasing your interest in them anyway.
Having thought about this more, I think the problem I'm having with you doing more for your friend than your friendship level dictates is my own experiences on the other side, which are defined by my personality, so don't take my advice as anything more than my preference.
The issue is that when I have grieved a loss in the past and acquaintances come out of the woodwork to express their condolences, if it goes anything further than "acquaintance level" (for lack of a better term) then feel I have to put away my grief in some small part and be social with them. Almost as though I have to help them with their grief over my loss. And perhaps they too feel the loss keenly, but they should seek comfort in their close friends and family.
I don't expect people to increase their level of familiarity due to any given event. Whether it's happy (new baby!) or sad (loss), it often adds a burden. Express your condolences according to the relationship you already have (or want, perhaps), but don't increase (or decrease!) the level of interaction based solely on the event or its magnitude.
But again, that may simply be me and my introverted nature - I prefer to grieve alone, grieving with others delays my own processing of the situation, taking me out of the "self care" sphere and putting me in the "social with others" sphere.
This, as you can imagine, drives my wife batty. She's much more the social griever than I am, but she's accepted that when she sees me hurting, trying to pull me out of my shell often is counterproductive.
Your friend is likely very different than I am, so as I thought about this more overnight I recognized that my advice is very specific, and shouldn't be generalized too far.
The issue is that when I have grieved a loss in the past and acquaintances come out of the woodwork to express their condolences, if it goes anything further than "acquaintance level" (for lack of a better term) then feel I have to put away my grief in some small part and be social with them. Almost as though I have to help them with their grief over my loss. And perhaps they too feel the loss keenly, but they should seek comfort in their close friends and family.
I don't expect people to increase their level of familiarity due to any given event. Whether it's happy (new baby!) or sad (loss), it often adds a burden. Express your condolences according to the relationship you already have (or want, perhaps), but don't increase (or decrease!) the level of interaction based solely on the event or its magnitude.
But again, that may simply be me and my introverted nature - I prefer to grieve alone, grieving with others delays my own processing of the situation, taking me out of the "self care" sphere and putting me in the "social with others" sphere.
This, as you can imagine, drives my wife batty. She's much more the social griever than I am, but she's accepted that when she sees me hurting, trying to pull me out of my shell often is counterproductive.
Your friend is likely very different than I am, so as I thought about this more overnight I recognized that my advice is very specific, and shouldn't be generalized too far.
I read Wild-Cat has nine lives in any given "cycle" however long the fuck that is, but what if he only uses like one life in said cycle? To the other lives like roll over, or does his body have a natural life limit? I'd be pissed if they didn't roll over.
At my new job all the office communication is done through a single chat application (HipChat). Today I saw someone saying *eats popcorn*, so I came over here and stole an emoticon, then uploaded it there.
I forget, is that emote used elsewhere, or is it distinctive enough as a Halforums trait? I don't know that I want someone getting curious and then accidentally stumbling upon this hive of scum and villainyHave you uploaded this fellow yet?
... Why is the derp emoticon's BBCode Leyla? 
I think it's lifted from the Something Awful forums.I forget, is that emote used elsewhere, or is it distinctive enough as a Halforums trait? I don't know that I want someone getting curious and then accidentally stumbling upon this hive of scum and villainy
I've had to teach the guys at the oil change place how to open my hood on occasion.
Awkward...
--Patrick
Interesting. It's called :byobdood:, so BYOB user. BYOB being some kind of meaningless acronym that was also a subforum for a while, until it was closed in SA, and moved on to BYOB XP (kind of like the PvPOnline debacle here I guess).
Yeah I don't know that I want to possibly be associated with SA early in my tenure