I've always been a recluse to some degree when it comes to family. I'm never around and I don't call or talk to my parents for weeks on end, even though I only live, maybe, 15 minutes away from them. And I just figured it out!
I'm sitting at work thinking how I should call my Mum and talk to her, ask how she's doing and it dawned on me why I'm never around. We have almost nothing in common. Which could be a sad revelation, but it actually makes me feel better knowing what keeps me away. Because I love my family, I really do, and I wish I had a stronger desire to be present, see them, but it's hard for me to bring up subjects that they don't care about. I don't want to go and sit in their house, prattling on about movies, video games, costumes, etc etc, wasting their energy on things they don't care to hear. HA! I figured it out! Now I know what to say when everyone tries to guilt trip me into spending time with them.