I was going to post this on Tumblr, but I realized I couldn't speak as freely there as I can here:
It seems like the better my dreams are, the worse they mess up my day... Usually I shake off nightmares shortly after waking. A good dream, however, can stir up emotions that just screw me over because I don’t know how to deal with them.
My dream from last night: I was on a trip, somewhere, it was kinda vague, and the people I was with were non-specific. Anyway, they told me to plug my ears so that they could set up a surprise for me. I did so, and then spotted my crush coming in through the front door. I realized I should close my eyes, too, and prepared myself to act surprised when she came in. When I opened them a lot of women I know were there. They were all in costumes, and some were sexy costumes. It was nice to see them, but I really wanted to see my crush... who was in a completely non-sexy clown costume. And she was still all I had eyes for. I tried to be polite and get away from everyone else to talk to my crush, but I woke up before I could get to her.
It was a weird, almost nonsensical, dream, but it stirred up a lot of real emotions. I want to be over my crush. I know she doesn’t return my feelings, and I swear I’m doing my best to get over her, but it’s just not happening. I feel guilty, like I must be stupid or something for not being able to figure out how to stop feeling like this.
And here's why I couldn't post this on Tumblr. My crush is on one of my best friends. (No, not Kags; thank God my friendship with her remains one of the points of clarity in my confusing life.) My crush and I are pretty close. We don't talk as much as we used to, since she's been really busy with her first semester away at college (she's had previous semesters living at home), but I'm still someone she comes to when she's upset or excited. She's stayed my friend through a boyfriend who wanted her to cut off contact with me. She knows I had a crush on her, and probably at least suspects that I never got over that crush.
I'm tired of feeling this way. I just want to enjoy my friendship with this wonderful woman. I want to be able to watch her YouTube videos without feeling such crushing emotion that I have to stop. I want to move on so that I'm not twisted in conflict when she talks about guys she's crushing on, and to not feel secretly happy when things don't work out with the guy she'd had her eye on. She's someone special, worth noticing, and I don't want to hope for her to not be noticed.