I cannot believe no one has posted the Elvis picture yet.
Are we not doing Elviscarus anymore?
Are we not doing Elviscarus anymore?
GasBandit
Staff member
Well, I mean, she's not a MINOR.
As someone who spent much of his twenties making terrible romantic decisions (even against advice) I've become adept at detecting bad ideas. This is a bad idea.
If she weren't a coworker, I'd suggest taking a leap. The age gap isn't really an issue, and even the disparity in life experience isn't a deal-breaker. But this has high potential for getting too complicated and risky. The fact is you wield a lot of power over her so the relationship would have a significant imbalance. You might not even think about using your seniority at work to coerce her into a relationship, but she might see it that way. Worse yet, HR might also see it that way.
If she weren't a coworker, I'd suggest taking a leap. The age gap isn't really an issue, and even the disparity in life experience isn't a deal-breaker. But this has high potential for getting too complicated and risky. The fact is you wield a lot of power over her so the relationship would have a significant imbalance. You might not even think about using your seniority at work to coerce her into a relationship, but she might see it that way. Worse yet, HR might also see it that way.
There's still time
I kinda feel bad for OP because the majority of the posts are "it's gonna FAIL/don't FAIL/ this is a FAILure/FAIL/FAILFAILFAIL" and that's gotta hurt the heart.
--Patrick
True, but you know what helps recover from that? Not being broke and destitute.
There have been many lessons in life that were unpleasant/painful/regretful for me to learn, no matter how useful and/or correct.
--Patrick
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Oh man, that reminds me of...shoot, I've drawn a blank, but he made two or three threads looking for advice and it turned into this huge drama because he turned down every piece of advice and became INCREDIBLY defensive. I remember trying to reason with him multiple times but he wouldn't have any of it.
THERAPY!
Norris, I presume
GasBandit
Staff member
That's the one. Those threads were a wild ride. I think they're in the Hall of Shame somewhere.
I think we've lost the Hall of Shame in one of @Dave's breakings of the forum. Or is it just hidden behind a setting somewhere?
GasBandit
Staff member
Man, 2009 was a hell of a year, huh
Aw, the Norris threads are M.I.A. Must've gotten lost somewhere along the line. I remember one had a title about getting signals from a girl or something.
This one? Oh man, that's a trainwreck.
I remember lurking on that thread. It still makes my brain hurt. On the other hand, it was nice to see so many long-missing Halforumites!
Bingo. Heh, and then there was a second thread much later after that disaster. Most people just nope'd right out of that one.
Ho-lee shit. I just finished re-reading the thread. Or skimming, really. Man, that was a pitch perfect dumpster fire.
I do (sometimes).
What I find more surprising is that this happened 2 years before I moved to work in that very city.
I could be running into @Norris every day now and not even know it.
--Patrick
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Anonymous
Anonymous
Just for the record:
I haven't gone away, I've been trying to be very thoughtful.
All the points in this thread, they are without question obvious and well founded. They were what I wrestled with before I even made the thread. In part, maybe I made it because I needed to hear it from others to confirm myself. Or maybe I was hoping someone would say different.
@PatrThom 's advice might be the most relevant because, aside from the age difference, He has seen first hand the "forbidden work romance".
But still all of it is true, and has it's points.
The age thing, that's probably a thing.
The work thing, that's definitely a thing.
I haven't gone away, I've been trying to be very thoughtful.
All the points in this thread, they are without question obvious and well founded. They were what I wrestled with before I even made the thread. In part, maybe I made it because I needed to hear it from others to confirm myself. Or maybe I was hoping someone would say different.
@PatrThom 's advice might be the most relevant because, aside from the age difference, He has seen first hand the "forbidden work romance".
But still all of it is true, and has it's points.
The age thing, that's probably a thing.
The work thing, that's definitely a thing.
Learn from my mistakes!
Also I've seen it third-hand (where other coworkers of mine decided to date one another). Most of them got fired upon discovery.
So yeah, "inconvenient" is putting it pretty mildly.
--Patrick
Aside: Just reread that Norris thread and can I just say I'm so proud of halforums for calling out the friend zone for the bullshit it is years before a large majority of people were doing it?
That was pretty cool of ya'll.
Also, I forgot I was active in that thread. I think I may need to reread Feeling Good and reabsorb it.
That was pretty cool of ya'll.
I just got some 7-year old likes from that thread.
Also I think our advice has matured from that thread, too.
GROWING UP
Also I think our advice has matured from that thread, too.
GROWING UP
