I should add, Mr. Z has been a naturalized citizen for over a decade, but in this current climate, I worry it may not be enough.
I've never been naive enough to think racism isn't still prevalent, god knows we've run into it enough times in our life together (including at our own wedding, but that was a distant relative my mother invited, so I brushed off his opinion). But we can't "pretend" to be something else. Mr. Z and Li'l Z can't just blend in with the crowd of white males. I don't regret for a second taking my husband's name or the choices I've made, but I've never been worried about it before. I only thing keeping me together is that we live in a pretty solidly blue area, and was so last night. But those Trumps signs that have dotted our neighborhood are going to have me looking over my shoulder for a while.
I've never been naive enough to think racism isn't still prevalent, god knows we've run into it enough times in our life together (including at our own wedding, but that was a distant relative my mother invited, so I brushed off his opinion). But we can't "pretend" to be something else. Mr. Z and Li'l Z can't just blend in with the crowd of white males. I don't regret for a second taking my husband's name or the choices I've made, but I've never been worried about it before. I only thing keeping me together is that we live in a pretty solidly blue area, and was so last night. But those Trumps signs that have dotted our neighborhood are going to have me looking over my shoulder for a while.