What is it with Guardians of the Galaxy causing martial strife?
When GotG opened two weeks ago, it was the same weekend as my family reunion, which meant we'd be out of town from Friday-Monday. Mr.Z had to work both Friday and Saturday, so he would be joining us Sunday morning. Li'l Z was already out with me, so Mr. Z was getting to play "bachelor" both those nights. He kept teasing me that he was going to see GotG without me, which is kinda a big deal, because I really wanted to see on the big screen (something we don't get to do much anymore), and since Li'l Z was born, Mr. Z has gotten to go out with adults many more times than I have. (To be fair, he does ask me if I'm okay with it first.) So, Sautrday rolls around and it's pouring rain, cancelling the events we had planned at the reunion. Everyone wants to go see GotG instead, and my mother offers to watch Li'l Z so I can go. That meant calling Mr. Z, after me getting on his case about seeing it without me, and asking him if he's okay with me going. In the end, he was fine with me going, and even though he could have gone that night on his own, he never did. (Not out of dedication: he was just lazy.) There's a pretty good chance we're going to see it (again) this Friday for our anniversary.
Shawnacy, other people have given good advice above, and I know no one knows your situation better than you, but if your kids are a very important part of life (and I have no doubt they are), you guys really need to reevaluation your current arrangement. Kids need to see that a healthy relationship is about compromise from both sides and being able to talk things out, not "do it, then ask for forgiveness", or in this case, "I don't care if you forgive me or not". Mr. Z and I both had parents (now divorced) who made a lot of selfish choices, and while we were aware they weren't good examples of a healthy marriage, we still saw a marriage counselor at one point to keep ourselves from repeating the same mistakes. Part of that means BOTH sides respecting that there will be times where you do thing individually, as long as it's not a huge disruption to the family's schedule. Seeing a movie she's already seen without you shouldn't be a crisis.
...Oh, back on point: I am Groot.
When GotG opened two weeks ago, it was the same weekend as my family reunion, which meant we'd be out of town from Friday-Monday. Mr.Z had to work both Friday and Saturday, so he would be joining us Sunday morning. Li'l Z was already out with me, so Mr. Z was getting to play "bachelor" both those nights. He kept teasing me that he was going to see GotG without me, which is kinda a big deal, because I really wanted to see on the big screen (something we don't get to do much anymore), and since Li'l Z was born, Mr. Z has gotten to go out with adults many more times than I have. (To be fair, he does ask me if I'm okay with it first.) So, Sautrday rolls around and it's pouring rain, cancelling the events we had planned at the reunion. Everyone wants to go see GotG instead, and my mother offers to watch Li'l Z so I can go. That meant calling Mr. Z, after me getting on his case about seeing it without me, and asking him if he's okay with me going. In the end, he was fine with me going, and even though he could have gone that night on his own, he never did. (Not out of dedication: he was just lazy.) There's a pretty good chance we're going to see it (again) this Friday for our anniversary.
Shawnacy, other people have given good advice above, and I know no one knows your situation better than you, but if your kids are a very important part of life (and I have no doubt they are), you guys really need to reevaluation your current arrangement. Kids need to see that a healthy relationship is about compromise from both sides and being able to talk things out, not "do it, then ask for forgiveness", or in this case, "I don't care if you forgive me or not". Mr. Z and I both had parents (now divorced) who made a lot of selfish choices, and while we were aware they weren't good examples of a healthy marriage, we still saw a marriage counselor at one point to keep ourselves from repeating the same mistakes. Part of that means BOTH sides respecting that there will be times where you do thing individually, as long as it's not a huge disruption to the family's schedule. Seeing a movie she's already seen without you shouldn't be a crisis.
...Oh, back on point: I am Groot.
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