Hi. I'm PatrThom's wife, a person who totally exists. Mostly, I exist on Tumblr, where I have a lot of transgender mutuals. Honestly, your story sounds pretty familiar. You don't need to be uncomfortable in your body to be really trans, and you're not the only person with a logistics problem either. I think you should try talking to some other transgender people. There are plenty of them on Tumblr; just keep in mind that Tumblr is a swamp and there are absolutely people there who will tell you that your experience isn't valid because it doesn't fit their scripts so -- social media emptor, I guess. Otherwise, Scarleteen has a good primer on transgender issues and PFLAG has a nice list of books more geared toward adults.
Then who was I playing Diablo with?!
Dave
Staff member
We have something like this at my work called "SimplyWell" but you have a year to get shit done and getting the points is stupid easy in most cases. Some things are "self reported" so I've been keeping a "food journal" that is updated irregularly. You know, like realistically, not completely made up or anything.
Basically if you DON'T make up the points you pay more in insurance costs. I actually understand why they are doing it, but forcing people to be healthy is a lose-lose proposition.
His beard isn't.
Yay, a real person, my favourite kind!
This is such bs. Your nutrition and general wellness are none of their business. It is probably illegal for them to require this sort of stuff, HIPAA & ADA would make it dodgy for them to even ask for health info in the first place.
I did a quick search and everything I find shows that they can offer incentives and rewards for meeting goals, but nothing mentions punishments for not or for not participating. However, IANAL, so you may want to talk with one near you if HR doesn't put the kibosh on it.
See: https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/regulations/qanda-ada-wellness-final-rule.cfm
Omg so they finally came to fix some stuff at work and I emptied out half my office. I can’t discuss the amount of dead bugs etc on the walls and floor. Just ... omg. And there are multiple issues with the wall and windowsill including a hole that I can see daylight through. No wonder it’s cold in there...and full of bugs. I’m refusing to move back in until it’s fixed.
The gall of that thing
It has some real stones!
Uh boy. Mr. Z just went through that last year. He figured he could ride out the pain for months, and the end result was emergency surgery. Please don't be him: get checked up right away and often.
Dave
Staff member
I'm looking for a part time job. I need to start making about $200-300 more a month because I need a new car. And since the wife absolutely refuses to quit her part time job and get a full time job (and because the son is still unemployed) I guess it's up to me. Again. My choices are basically these.
All this for a measly $200-300 a month.
- Start promoting my entertainment company again and market myself, gaining inconsistent income and traveling a lot.
- Good: The stuff is already set up and I already own the gear. I'd only need one gig a month to make the goal.
- Bad: I fucking HATE booking gigs. Income is inconsistent and I can't plan on anything. When I do get gigs they are out of town and ruin my entire weekend.
- Get a part-time job.
- Good: Would be very easy to get a part time job that fits my hours. Consistent income.
- Bad: Would take up most night, probably some weekends. No more free time. No more streaming.
- Make more money streaming.
- Good: Would be something I'm already doing.
- Bad: Yeah, the chances I'd make the $200-300 a month doing this is almost nil. I'd be just as likely to get a basketball scholarship.
- Turn ads back on here.
- Good: Nothing.
- Bad: Everything. Not going to do it.
- Donate Plasma.
- Good: Make as much as I want and when I want. Low effort money.
- Bad: Have to take a couple hours out of my week to do it. Have to get there REAL early as there is only a certain number of people who can donate in a day.
All this for a measly $200-300 a month.
Donating plasma twice or three times a week is also a great way to completely crap all over your own body. There's a reason the Red Cross suggests once every two to three weeks.
I understand your wife doesn't want to quit her current job, but, err, wouldn't she be able to get a second part time? Or your son? I mean, almost by default both of them have more free time than you and should be able to do almost any part time job you could find, too, and easier. Or all of you go donate plasma once a week, it'll still be better than you literally bleeding yourself dry for them.
I understand your wife doesn't want to quit her current job, but, err, wouldn't she be able to get a second part time? Or your son? I mean, almost by default both of them have more free time than you and should be able to do almost any part time job you could find, too, and easier. Or all of you go donate plasma once a week, it'll still be better than you literally bleeding yourself dry for them.
Your wife has no health insurance?!
Is she in good health?
Is she in good health?
Dave
Staff member
Site costs is like $22 a month. That's nothing. I got Halforums money.If you stop paying for the forum and actually let us do it through donations, it would probably be a good call, if that would save you money.
Answered in a very rant-y PM.
I'm sorry Dave, this situation sucks. I mean, I don't know what the situation is with your wife and your son, and I'm not going to pry, but it's wrong to make one person do the "heavy lifting", especially if finances are tight. The last time I witnessed a situation where the full-timed employed spouse took a second job because the underemployed/unemployed spouse refused to do so, it ended in divorce.
...Of course, the full-timed employed spouse took the second job so they could afford to divorce the unemployed spouse, and the unemployed spouse moved back in with his parents after they payed for his half of the divorce, and never held another job or moved out ever again and literally lived off his parents until they died and still complains he's suffered a hard live, even though they left him a fully payed house and the only money he has in their will, AND.....
I'm sorry , where was I? Oh yeah, don't be the only one working, man. You need down-time, too.
I worry for the long term effects on your health re: frequent plasma donations as well.
I worry about your health in general if you work to the exclusion of all else by taking on part time work in addition to your full time job. If your wife doesn’t want to quit her current part time job, could she look for another?
Is there any chance your wife could be covered by your health plan? My office offers single and family coverage.
I worry about your health in general if you work to the exclusion of all else by taking on part time work in addition to your full time job. If your wife doesn’t want to quit her current part time job, could she look for another?
Is there any chance your wife could be covered by your health plan? My office offers single and family coverage.
My issue is less a sitter and more someone to allow my son to have a more flexible school schedule.
Dave
Staff member
Had a LOOOONG talk with my son on the way to get the car. He's going to step up and pay more per month. Which should take some pressure off a bit. I'm still looking at getting a second job, though. At least now I won't have to worry about how I get there or whether or not I'll make it.