"it was gods plan..." so it was gods plan for my father to survive everything but die to a horrible cancer that took his life by filling his lungs with fluid until he drowned inside his own lungs?
"god needed another angel" why didnt god just make another angel then?
"it was for the best" yes his death is a boon, I mos def didnt want him around for anything, its really good that he is dead because now i dont have a choice in being a grown up who looks after all my loved ones, no longer immersed in the childish bliss that when i fuck up the old man will come and get me out of the bind.
this has nothing to do with what pat said, I have no issues with it, i never felt it was implied that RNG is a bitch should be convened to the grieving people. just him expressing that "life isnt fair" in regards to the untimely death.
This is a good example of how context is important.
When my 95-year-old great grandmother died after a long, drawn out illness in which her quality of life had dwindled away to life being a painful chore, it might have been said to have been that her finally passing was "for the best." Though, I still wouldn't have phrased it exactly that way, probably something more akin to "she's no longer in pain."
But all of those would have been cold comfort at best or infuriating at worst to hear when my mother committed suicide, or Pauline succumbed to cancer.
"Life isn't fair" also doesn't sound like a good idea to me, because it sounds too much like "this is just one tragedy upon myriad, and thus, your suffering is unremarkable, if not unimportant."
There's a subtle difference between "Life is cruel sometimes" and "Sometimes, life can be so very cruel." One has hints of marginalization, while the other sounds more like commiseration.
Fleetwood Mac got in, they're hard to get rid of.
