Would this be too insistent?

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IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Dear Dave or Jay,

Okay, so I joined that Geek2Geek dating site. I found a few local matches for me and sent a message to them. One read it but I didn't get a response. It seems like she and I have a lot in common, and I mean a LOT. I just shrugged it off and kept looking. Turns out there aren't many geeks in the Bryan/College Station area. In fact, I can count my local matches on two hands. As for those who have even logged on in the past few months, I can count them on one hand.

Then I realized that my profile looked so bland and I'd made a few mistakes. No wonder I didn't get any response. There weren't many details in it and some of the boxes were completely blank (I'm new to this). Also, looking "just for fun right now" is apparently online code for expressing a desire for one night stands. I honestly didn't know that. I changed it but that site has a delay in updates (up to 24 hours); I hadn't realized it at the time and assumed it would update instantly like Facebook.

When it updates soon, the profile will actually look decent. Would it be proper to send another message within the next several days, explaining the faux pas? Or would that come across a bit strong? Normally I wouldn't care but there are so few matches here that it might be worth another shot. Plus the Renaissance Faire is coming up soon and that would be a good opportunity.

And yes, I realize I'm sounding a lot like this guy right now.

 
Adam

Adam

I am neither Dave nor Jay, so my advice is taken with a grain of salt.

You didn't get a response with your old profile. Updating your new profile and resending a message can have only two results that affect you:

1) They continue to ignore you.

2) They are interested in you and contact you.

So, by emailing them, things can either stay the same or improve. I'm failing to see how you can possibly lose in this scenario :)
 
Fun Size

Fun Size

I'm with Adammon. Seems like the worst that could happen is being ignored more. So no, it's not too insistent.

So long as you don't sent a picture of your junk a second time. That...that's too much.*

*This statement null and void if in both instances your junk is dressed up as a different character from Star Wars/Star Trek. Then you're just showing creativity, which chicks dig.
 
Dave

Dave

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As put before, once you update your profile send another message. Be short & sweet. Say something like, "Being really new to this, my last profile was a mess. I have updated it and hope that these changes - which actually do reflect my personality - will interest you in some way. I apologize for bothering you again. Thanks!"

Or something like that.

Or you could go the humor route. "I just re-read my profile. Hoo-boy! I sound like some kinda pervert! As this isn't the case I have updated my profile to be more like me and not some creepy guy you might find on an online dating site. Oh, wait. DAMN!"
 
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makare

Don't do that humor thing Dave said. THAT made him sound like a creeper.
 
Fun Size

Fun Size

Yeah. Go with the junk thing. "Me and little C3PO wanted to let you know my profile is updated. These are the droids you're looking for!"
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

makare said:
Don't do that humor thing Dave said. THAT made him sound like a creeper.
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... oops. Um, how do I unsend a message?

Haha kidding. This is good advice. I'm just going to wait for my profile to finally update and then try again with that short but sweet message. Thanks a lot.
 
M

makare

If there is no response after that go with Dave's response followed by "why wont you looooove meeeee?!"

preferably in audio format.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Girls respond well to pressure. Maybe I should slam her with a deadline and tell her that I'll lose all interest if she doesn't respond by Wednesday. Perhaps I should start a second account to try to woo her in case that doesn't work.

But in all seriousness, what should I use as the message title?
 
Dave

Dave

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Pull a Van Gogh....send her a body part which you've severed in a fit of lovelorn wantonness.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Okay, so the profile updated. I followed the advice I was given (the short but sweet message) explaining how my profile was a mess at first. And to put in a detail so that it didn't look so impersonal, I told her my favorite book was The Hobbit. Several minutes later, I couldn't view her profile at all, meaning she either closed her account or blocked me. I've driven a girl away without even meeting her. It's not like I bombarded her with messages; in fact, that first message I sent to her was several days back and I'd left her alone afterwards. I KNEW I should've painted my junk and sent a pic of it.

Btw, I don't think Geek2Geek is going to help me much here. There is now ONE match in the area for me. In the meantime, there's over forty guys in College Station who are looking for the same thing as me. I kinda feel like Ted in that HIMYM episode when he uses a dating agency but they can't find anybody for him.

PS - Although her profile comes up as a match I can't click on it. So this probably means blockage. I'm staying away from her profile.

PS again - There are now no matches for me. Somebody should write a screenplay of my love life. I'm sure it can turn into a good sitcom.
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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Sounds like it's just time to hit up northgate, dude. Head over to Fitzwilly's to drown your sorrows in cheap beer and pound them out of your head with half-assed live music that's waaaay too loud.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

I haven't been to Fitzwilly's yet, but I go to The Corner every Friday. At any given moment there's fifty drunk chicks stumbling around. But... I don't want one of those drunk chicks. I want a geek.
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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I don't know if it's still there, but there used to be a coffee shop with free wifi behind the Fuddruckers on Harvey Rd right down from the sorority houses where a lot of the college girls used to hang out. There was a netzone next door to it but I think that's closed now.

Anyway, I dunno what I'm doing telling you all this. I've been off the market for years and even before that it's not like I was mack-tastic or anything, so my chick-chasing advice is limited to standard platitudes and bad stereotypes.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Speed-dating? I suppose that's worth a shot. There's also two girls in my anthropology seminar who seem to like me. One of them's a big fan of Dr. Horrible and Firefly, and she flipped out when I showed her that pic of me with Joss Whedon. I am well aware that I shouldn't date someone I see on a daily basis, but I only see them once a week so it should be cool.

I know that I wasn't dumped because I never even met this Geek2Geek girl. Still, you can't help but feel a little rejected.
 
Dei

Dei

It sounds like someone who maybe signed up for the site, decided not to use it/got a boyfriend and just never thought to remove her profile, until someone actually persisted in contacting her beyond the normal one message.
 
Dave

Dave

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IronBrig4 said:
One of them's a big fan of Dr. Horrible and Firefly, and she flipped out when I showed her that pic of me with Joss Whedon.
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You guys like the same things and you are backing off because you have a seminar with them? Oh, you mean something ELSE in common you can talk about? That's TERRIBLE!! [/sarcasm]

Dude. The ask the girl out. If you are nervous, do it in a group. Have a lot of you go for coffee. Or you can say, "You know, I've thought you are a pretty cool person for some time now, but the more we talk the more I know I want to ask you out."
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Actually, I am planning on bringing brownies to tomorrow's seminar. I tried a new cookies and cream recipe (Oreo cookies in the batter and icing). So that should be a good icebreaker.
 
HCGLNS

HCGLNS

IronBrig4 said:
Actually, I am planning on bringing brownies to tomorrow's seminar. I tried a new cookies and cream recipe (Oreo cookies in the batter and icing). So that should be a good icebreaker.
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Good luck, bringing food is always a good icebreaker. I met the love of my life by bringing a turnip to the party as a snack.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

Well, I talked with those two girls in my anthro seminar. One of them's engaged (she doesn't wear a ring so I hadn't known) and the other's got a boyfriend. Said boyfriend lives all the way up in Edmonton but you gotta respect that. At least I got two more friends out of it, so that part's good. And the brownies came out really well. It was fun crushing the Oreos because I felt like the Incredible Hulk whenever I smashed them with a rolling pin.

Now I've gotta get back to the drawing board.
 
Adam

Adam

IronBrig4 said:
Well, I talked with those two girls in my anthro seminar. One of them's engaged (she doesn't wear a ring so I hadn't known) and the other's got a boyfriend. Said boyfriend lives all the way up in Edmonton but you gotta respect that. At least I got two more friends out of it, so that part's good. And the brownies came out really well. It was fun crushing the Oreos because I felt like the Incredible Hulk whenever I smashed them with a rolling pin.

Now I've gotta get back to the drawing board.
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Goes to show that all the good nerd girls are already taken :(
 
GasBandit

GasBandit

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At least, they're taken as far as people who think a boyfriend 2200 miles away means she's off limits.

I guarantee you, if Ironbrig doesn't hook up with her, someone else will.
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

You think I should try it? I'd been thinking I should keep my distance because of the principle of the thing but... that's never gotten me anywhere before. Perhaps I could ask her to Midnight Yell in a couple weeks?
 
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