When we do things together my wife and I like to watch television shows that we have equal interest in (Supernatural, Fringe, Doctor Who, Arrow, etc). We like to go on walks with our baby daughter, or with the entire family when the kids are home from school. We like to take everyone to the aquarium. Sarah and I used to go down to Dave and Busters on half priced Wednesdays (which was how we got our Xbox). With the baby we can't do many of the things we used to do, but we still manage. We do have a lot of chores to keep up around the house. And I understand why she might feel I don't pull my weight. I do attempt to, and I think I do a good job keeping up with what I can. But I work and sleep at odd hours. Plus, again Sarah has very strong parenting urges that make her uneasy when we are both not spending as much time with the kids as possible. So when the kids go to swimming lessons, or are being picked up from their biological father's, etc, she feels we both need to be in attendance. Instead of one person doing it, and the other person focusing on other matters such as cleaning up the house or doing laundry. And honestly if we were able to do that I'd be happy with either job. I can pick up the kids OR I can stay at home and clean. I'm flexible.
Our current schedule mostly gives us time together. Which is fine. I like that. I've never needed a lot of time to play games. And I am getting used to not playing nearly as much as I once did when I was single. It can still be frustrating at times when I really like a game I'm invested in, but I know that it won't be going anywhere. Mostly I just need to know that I can look forward to it as some point in the near future. For us it's every other evening for a few hours before work, but the schedule is tentative so it can change if necessary. I'm hopeful it will work out. I just didn't like the feeling where I didn't know if it would be a several days, to a week before I had a chance to unwind with the Xbox again.