Sooo....how's the plan coming?
--Patrick
(full disclosure: I absolutely adore* this movie)
*edited
--Patrick
(full disclosure: I absolutely adore* this movie)
*edited
Dammit, it's already been made?! Well, there goes my future.Easy:
Ah, crippling loneliness. There you are.
You're having this frustration because you're doing it wrong. By saying she doesn't know or care, she's passing the decision to you. That's for you to make the decision, not to then ask her "how about this?" or "what about that?" because that's then you throwing the decision back to her, just with a hint now. I know this isn't a verbatim script, but I'm assuming the gist is the same. Notice this part:Her: "I'm free tonight. Let's go out!"
Me: "Okay. Where do you want to go?"
Her: "I don't care. Whatever you want to do."
Me (sensing the trap already): "Oookay... how about (event)?"
Her: "No."
Me: "What about this?"
Her: "I don't want to go there."
Me: "So what do you want?"
Her: "I'm up for anything. You choose."
Me:
Her: "I'm up for anything. You choose."
You didn't choose. You passed it back to her. Here's how you do it:
Her: "I'm free tonight. Let's go out!"
Me: "Okay. Where do you want to go?"
Her: "I don't care. Whatever you want to do."
Me: "Okay. We're going to (event)."
She's got nothing now because you followed her directions and made the decision. Odds are high she would go along with this because making the decision is an assertive action. In the event she protests:
Her: I don't want to do that.
Me: You said we'd do whatever I wanted to do. This is what I want to do.
Her: Yeah, but I don't want to do that.
Me: You said you didn't care.
Don't get emotional; just stick with your decision unless she makes a counter-decision, at which point, go along with what she wants to do. But odds are good you wouldn't even get to this point unless this is a game she likes to play, but sticking to your decision unless she presents an alternative traps her in her words instead. It's a do-no-wrong on your part, at least for getting out the door, and steers from the trap. Remember, a lot of the time it's not about what you say, but how you say it, and in this case it's the difference between a question and a statement, even if it's about the same (event).
The I Don't Care reminds me of my Aunt's favorite bar, it had the opposite effect though...
"Where are you going tonight?"
"What's It to Ya?"[DOUBLEPOST=1372022633][/DOUBLEPOST]MY GOD! it is still open!
http://www.yelp.com/biz/whats-it-to-ya-lounge-san-antonio
"Where are you going tonight?"
"What's It to Ya?"[DOUBLEPOST=1372022633][/DOUBLEPOST]MY GOD! it is still open!
http://www.yelp.com/biz/whats-it-to-ya-lounge-san-antonio
I'm home sick and on some pretty strong medication that is making me stupidly hungry.
Cajungal
Staff member
That's happened to me before!! It was bizarre.
Just go work at the other place for a while.
So hard to explain to other people! So this morning, I am trying to resist the need to eat spicy refried bean nachos. I know this is wrong...
BananaHands
Staff member
I need establish boundaries with what my female roommate tells me.
I don't want to hear about her unusually small uterus.
I don't want to hear about her unusually small uterus.
Cajungal
Staff member
You should pay attention. You might learn something.
Incidentally, I've pm'd you a link to my Menstruation blog.
BananaHands
Staff member
It is weird that I'd totally want to hear about this? That sounds interesting. What is unusually small? What are the causes, the implications? I want to know! I once dated a girl who had unusually shaped ovaries...
That's so bizarre. She brings this up in casual conversation?
fade
Staff member
This place has gone downhill. It's been nearly 10 minutes, and no one has "FTFY'd" that into "pms'd". My expectations are lowered.
BananaHands
Staff member
Well she went to get an IUD, which is this like 12-year birth control thing that doesn't use any hormones and is almost as effective as full sterilization. Turns out her uterus was too small, meaning she couldn't get it. Like, hers was at 4cm and it needed to be at 6cm.
Either way, she needs friends that are girls because I'm all like 'shit man, uteruses(uteri?) are like crazy you can have all the pbr in my fridge' and I doubt it's helping. I also really just want to save my uterus conversations for someone special to me, not just every girl out there. My username isn't "Duderus", it's BananaHands.
I am totally using Duderus for all future handles.
BananaHands
Staff member
In retrospect she probably doesn't want her uterus size broadcasted on the internet.
Also I would have legit been interested in that conversation.
That rag?
fade
Staff member
Thank you. Faith restored.
Pouring rain! Some streets are flooded/closed. May not be able to make it to my tattoo consult this evening 
ThatNickGuy, get busy with this!
Cajungal
Staff member
Huh... I should really start working on my art thread again...
Hmm...maybe I should start writing my blog again.
*Writes like three posts and then completely locks up for weeks.*
Well, this is kind of embarrassing. I should try to put together something anyway.
*Writes a semi-throwaway post, immediately followed by an entire series of ideas that need to be addressed in the near future but have to be spaced out on the off chance that someone reads even a little regularly.*
*Writes like three posts and then completely locks up for weeks.*
Well, this is kind of embarrassing. I should try to put together something anyway.
*Writes a semi-throwaway post, immediately followed by an entire series of ideas that need to be addressed in the near future but have to be spaced out on the off chance that someone reads even a little regularly.*
Hi, me! Nice to meet you.Hmm...maybe I should start writing my blog again.
*Writes like three posts and then completely locks up for weeks.*
Well, this is kind of embarrassing. I should try to put together something anyway.
*Writes a semi-throwaway post, immediately followed by an entire series of ideas that need to be addressed in the near future but have to be spaced out on the off chance that someone reads even a little regularly.*
Ugh. Applying for more jobs (it's a near-constant thing for me, I genuinely do not enjoy unemployment), and for two of the jobs that I've applied for in the last couple days, their online application sites have required an answer to the Veteran Status question (even if that answer is "I prefer not to identify"), but haven't provided an "I'm not a veteran" option. If you're going to ask a mandatory question, at least try to make sure that you provide all of the possible answers, especially since there are far, far more non-veteran applicants that there are former-veteran applicants.
Very much this. I was passed over for an interview at one point because the question stated something to the effect of, "Could you have remained employed at your previous job, if you had wanted to? [Y/N]" I realize they were trying to essentially ask, "Were you fired?" without using those exact words, but in my case I had been laid off from my previous job due to the entire company going bankrupt, which meant I had to answer "No." Never even got the chance to explain myself to anybody.
--Patrick
The answer to that question is "Yes." The business going under wasn't you fault, you weren't fired or terminated. The key phrase is "...if you had WANTED to." It's the way that type of question is worded to be able to ask it to get around laws that are in place in many states. The way you answered it was, couldn't have stayed, they told me to get lost.