But... the neon isn't a hatchback.It looks like a mismatched Dodge Dart (SXT/Aero body, but SE wheels). I was more referring to the fact that it is a bright red hatchback (and because I keep thinking your car is a Neon, not a Volt).
--Patrick
Then that would explain why I recognized the Dart.But... the neon isn't a hatchback.
When it comes to family drama, a mindset I've adopted in the past few years has really helped me to deal with situations like this. That mindset is "Don't be a part of the problem... Be the whole problem." Or alternatively, "I'm not stuck here with you, you're stuck here with me."My family is having a big birthday party for my mother in a few weeks. My VERY religious aunt will likely be there. She's done things like picket outside abortion clinics, and sent a homophobic letter to my cousin who was getting married to her partner. Years ago, when I'd moved in with a girlfriend at the time, she called me to "congratulate me." In fact, she called specifically to ask "Soooo...now that you've moved in? What's the next step?" and said she didn't think it was right that we were living together but not under the "right eyes of authority." (in other words, God's authority, as in marriage).
I dread seeing her.
On the one hand, I'm half-tempted to get and wear a blatant pro-pride shirt just to screw with her. Maybe even finally use this as an excuse to order Steph Sterling's "The Gays Can Do Whatever They Want" t-shirt.
On the other hand, that feels like creating unnecessary drama when it's my mother's day. I'm already going over ways in my head on how to deal with this aunt on the day.
My mom's a troublemaker. If I were in that situation, I'd already be conspiring with her to cause the maximum annoyance to the offending family member, and we'd both be cackling about the potential apoplexy about to be unleashed.Yeah, that's the thing. It's my mom's day and I don't want to create more drama over this. Mom can't stand my aunt most times and hates the things that she's done in the past.
Honestly, I can't even remember the last time I saw this aunt. Maybe 10 years? I'm friends with her son/my cousin on Facebook, but we don't really talk. I'm sure he sees some of the pro-LGBTQ or pro-choice opinions and news on my feed. I honestly don't know where he stands on those opinions, but he still lives with his mother (he also has a history of seizures and other health problems, so it's harder for him to support himself).
Oh, another fun tidbit: she's also an anti-vaxxer. To the point that she wasn't allowed to go to the hospital when her own son was sick a year or two ago because she wasn't vaccinated and refused even wear a mask.
If anything, I believe the time you have spent in the call center has already primed you for how to act. Be professional, but be curt, redirect the conversation to the subject at hand, and just choose not to chase any attempts to derail from that subject.I'm already going over ways in my head on how to deal with this aunt on the day.
Not for the sake of that specific person but perhaps for the sake of the shared ties you have with that person. Otherwise, I tend to agree.Do we owe our family members?
If they aren't the kind of person I would ever hang out with them why should I bother with them?
Is this wrong? I feel bad about it sometimes but I feel worse being around them, even when they show up on facetime at someone else's house.
I actually feel that way about my brother. My mother is constantly telling me "blood is thicker than water" and I'm always telling her "Why do I have to try to be friends with an asshole just because you were horny once? What does that have to do with me?"Do we owe our family members?
If they aren't the kind of person I would ever hang out with them why should I bother with them?
Is this wrong? I feel bad about it sometimes but I feel worse being around them, even when they show up on facetime at someone else's house.
Just tell her the actual meaning of that saying is opposite what she thinks.My mother is constantly telling me "blood is thicker than water"
Not particularly. But just like going to a party hosted by a friend, you kind of owe it to the host or the one throwing the party or whatever to try and be civil/not cause drama unnecessarily. I've been to weddings of friends where there were other friends of theirs I absolutely loathe. Obviously not quite the same as an aunt at a family thing, but just the same;..Ignore, avoid, handle professionally, don't get sucked in.Do we owe our family members?
If they aren't the kind of person I would ever hang out with them why should I bother with them?
Is this wrong? I feel bad about it sometimes but I feel worse being around them, even when they show up on facetime at someone else's house.
Specifically, the entire quote is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."Just tell her the actual meaning of that saying is opposite what she thinks.
Just tell her the actual meaning of that saying is opposite what she thinks.
Actually, this is likely not true (see end of wiki article and stack exchange dialogue) - though the "reversal" is more interesting/snazzy, perhaps to fit a modern shift away from blood family ties and towards the importance of friends/found family, the original (biological family) meaning has a much longer history of use.Specifically, the entire quote is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
I feel that, depending on their size (adult saltwater crocs for instance), harassing crocodiles is a problem that will solve itself.Were they okay with you harassing crocodiles in the past?
You’re a better man than me for not immediately telling your wife to go fuck herself.But the best part? Once I told my wife the things my daughter already agreed to help with (hanging lights, numbering desks, etc.), she decided that she didn’t want to. So now I have no one helping me get my class together, a.k.a. the only thing I asked them to do for me this summer while I toiled away.
To be fair to her, she made it clear that she really didn’t want to, but would still come help if I really wanted her to. So I just let her off the hook, because I don’t feel like dragging her there and having her half-heartedly help (knowing the whole time she was miserable about it).You’re a better man than me for not immediately telling your wife to go fuck herself.
Worked with a purchaser once who was convinced he had bought 80 long tons of coal. A huge dust up occurred trying to find the missing coal.Hey now isn't a ton 2240 pounds?
--Patrick