I mean it’s great if that ends up happening.I feel like obviously bogus claims of sexual assault would be good for you in terms of showing a pattern of untrustworthiness.
You would have to prove definitively that she knew the accusations were fake, or that she disregarded obvious evidence that the accusation was not accurate. It would be very hard to win that case.Can you sue for libel? I don't know law at all, but I would lose my fucking shit if I was accused of that.
We’re using it.Wowwww.
I legitimately think this should be entered into evidence. I'm not even kidding. It speaks volumes.
Like, not only will they not be available for some unspecified reason, but she is specifically calling out that she doesn't consider you, the father, to be "family."
--Patrick
It’s good for showing alienation and parental substitution mostly, which is what we are using it for. She’s keeping me from seeing my kid and putting other father figures ahead of me. I’m never going to argue child support.I was thinking more for things like if she pursues child support:
"Why should I support a child you don't let me see?"
"Because you have to. It's your duty as a father."
"Oh, NOW I'm the father?"
--Patrick
As a child of a narcissist, I feel I want to weigh in on this while admittedly mapping Sarah's behavior to the way my mother would think.Sarah has made getting more time, and even keeping the time I already have a challenge. Her usual tactic is making plans for Hailey during my schedule, telling me last minute, and then make me either agree with no chance for a make-up visit “coparenting is letting your kid decide her schedule. Deal with it” or having me force the visit where she lets Hailey know that I’m not letting her participate in the thing that was planned in favor of being with me, making me the bad guy
Thank you. I appreciate that. I’m so sorry you had to (have to?) deal with that. I dealt with my narcissist as a major part of my life for 7 years. You’ve had to deal with yours your entire life. It is a little comforting however to be able to hope that Hailey will catch on just as you did.As a child of a narcissist, I feel I want to weigh in on this while admittedly mapping Sarah's behavior to the way my mother would think.
Here's my advice: Be the bad guy. "Oh, you made plans? How unfortunate that you'll have to break them, it seems you lost track of the dates I get Hailey." Her tactic isn't just targeted at you, it's as much maybe even more a carrot/stick for Hailey. She gets "rewarded" for choosing to stay home when it's presented as such, with the implication that she'll be deprived of those events and family bonding time if she expresses that she wants to spend time with you. Even if Sarah is successful for the time being at making Hailey think it's mean ol' dad stopping her from having fun, it's a short term victory. She's rapidly approaching the teenage years where she'll be able to pick up on adult bullshit. Hailey presumably knows what days she's supposed to be with you. She'll see the pattern that Sarah is scheduling things for those days on purpose. As she gets older, she'll remember which parent fought for every minute they could spend with her and which one made a sick game of preventing it. Be immovable and Sarah is forced to see you, not Hailey, at "fault" for not getting her way in order to maintain her internal logic. She wants to see herself as "winning" at being the favored parent, and she knows she can't do that if she keeps punishing Hailey for you enforcing your rights.
Even if she did I think the cost on something like that is minimum $10k. I’m hopeful my lawyer has a plan. We have a minor’s council for Hailey that was appointed and my lawyer knows her on a professional level and thinks it’s a good thing for us. In the end we need to at least get a recommendation from her that I should be part of Hailey’s life and that steps must be taken to repair our relationship.It sounds like you need a court-appointed psychologist to do an assessment. My guess is that your ex will not agree with that.
Tough read. A lot reminded me of this shit too. Glad things worked out for him. I’m hopeful. I don’t need full custody like he did. My ex isn’t a total parenting fuckup. She just doesn’t think I have any right to be part of Hailey’s life because she lost control of me.Saw this story on Reddit, made me think of your situation. Poor guy had to go through five years of bullshit, but it ended up being worth it. Hope things turn out better for you as well.
I would be very afraid of what she's filling Hailey's head with. Even if she isn't physically abusive, people like her don't stop gaslighting and emotionally manipulating just because they're a child, usually they do it more.Tough read. A lot reminded me of this shit too. Glad things worked out for him. I’m hopeful. I don’t need full custody like he did. My ex isn’t a total parenting fuckup. She just doesn’t think I have any right to be part of Hailey’s life because she lost control of me.
That is the part that’s the most frightening. We Will be arguing for full custody due to that reason. Unfortunately, alienation like that is hard to prove.I would be very afraid of what she's filling Hailey's head with. Even if she isn't physically abusive, people like her don't stop gaslighting and emotionally manipulating just because they're a child, usually they do it more.