I am tired of being the sole person in any given group of acquaintances or friends who is capable of organising events. "We should meet this weekend," one friend will say. "Yes, alright," I agree, "What day works best for you?" "Oh I don't know," comes the inevitable reply, as though they were unprepared for this level of inquiry, "I don't care, I guess. What day do you want to meet?" Me?! You're the one who wants to have a meeting. "I think Friday evening would be good," I proffer, "We both work on the same side of the city, we could meet after we're off." "Oh, Friday's no good, I'm meeting my parents for dinner." So what you're saying now is that you both know and care on what day of the weekend we meet. And now that it is resolved that it will have to be Saturday, a similar series of useless responses leads us down this path:
Time? Don't care. Oh, but not the afternoon, it has to be evening.
Place? Don't care. Oh, no, I don't eat Chinese food.
What should we do after dinner? Don't care. Oh, god, no, we're not watching that.
It is somehow my job to recommend things apparently only so that they can be shot down. When it's my initiative, that is to say, when I am the one who suggests a meeting, I generally have a time and a place and some kind of plan, so at least I am pitching an idea. Of course I'm open to it being edited because I may have picked a time that doesn't work for you, or a variety of food to which you are fatally allergic, but at least I haven't said, "I want to meet, but that beyond that I don't really give a damn what happens so long as I maintain the power of aggressively vetoing what I will treat as your exceptional idiocy."
I would really just like to have one friend, just one, who engages social situations with ideas about what to do as opposed to just reserving the right to piss all over the ideas they demand from me. All I ask is that people contribute once in a while, especially to their own fucking plans.