[Rant] Minor Rant III: For a Few Hollers More

Tress

Tress

I'm sorry makare.

My rant doesn't really compare, but I feel the need to get it off my chest.

I like to think of myself as a polite person. In fact, I pride myself on it. Sure, around here I can be an ass sometimes (I'm sorry if I've been an ass to you, dear reader). But in real life, I try to make a point of using good manners and always treating others with respect. So how in the fuck do I keep ending up with people in my life who think it's stupid/weak/lame/whatever to be nice?

Examples from earlier when hanging out with a friend:
  • Hold the door open for her? Get laughed at while she walks through.
  • What happens when she reaches a door first at the movie theater? She cuts in front of me and walks through, and quips "Of course I'm not going to let you go first."
  • Listen to her complain about some crap, and make an offer to give her a hand with the problem? "Why? What are you going to do? How would you help? What if I said yes, what could you possibly do? I don't even know why you say that."
  • Pay for her dinner after she insists I pick the place without giving me any input? "I normally wouldn't eat here, but whatever..."
  • I thank her for giving me a free movie ticket (she had a gift card)? "That's fine, now you owe me."

Seriously, what the fuck? I'm not a doormat, lady. I'm not here to be your bitch. I know you think that being nice to others is some sort of weakness and you're so proud about how blunt and rude you can be, but that shit doesn't fly with me.

She wasn't like this earlier; I think I just caught a glimpse of what she's like when she relaxes. Sure, other times she can be friendly. But she is never, ever polite. And she seems to take pride in that.

Bah.
 
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makare

That's so weird because just earlier today I was telling someone that I think one of the main problems in the world today is people thinking that individuality or "be yourself" is a license to be an asshole. Like, " I am not going to be nice. That just isn't ME." who gives a shit? it isn't really anybody. People act a certain way to make life more pleasant. Honestly I miss manners a lot. I feel like manners have been killed by pc bullshit AND the backlash to PC bullshit. The latter meaning people who equate any effort to be nice as merely being politically correct and thus resent it. I loathe those people.
 
PatrThom

PatrThom

Does she assume you being polite means you want to be a bottom, and so she is attempting to indulge you?
If not, she may be trying to get a rise out of you, to test your limits to see just how much you'll take before you crack...to see if you have it in you.

Not really sure how to determine without spying on her/grilling friends.

--Patrick
 
David

David

Small things like that adding up made me realize it wouldn't work with my last ex, but it was more of a general bitchiness.

I make a minor off-hand joke, or tease her on some minor thing that was similar to something she teased me for: "The hell is that supposed to mean? Why would you say that!?"
I'm confused on something she said at first than clarify when I realize what she meant: "What do you have to correct me for!?"
Talking to her online and I say something that in absolutely no way could be interpreted as me being angry: "GOD I'm sorry, I didn't know! Geeze! I'm just going to log off if you're going to be like that."
 
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SeraRelm

Guys my thumbs hurt from having to reply to all my online friends all the time!

(fwp)
 
S

Soliloquy

I just found out that an old friend of mine has an IQ that's about 30 points higher than what one of those crappy free IQ tests says my IQ is.

Weird thing is? I've got a good-paying job. She can't even get one as a hostess at a restaurant.

Tress said:
My rant doesn't really compare, but I feel the need to get it off my chest.

I like to think of myself as a polite person. In fact, I pride myself on it. Sure, around here I can be an ass sometimes (I'm sorry if I've been an ass to you, dear reader). But in real life, I try to make a point of using good manners and always treating others with respect. So how in the fuck do I keep ending up with people in my life who think it's stupid/weak/lame/whatever to be nice?

Examples from earlier when hanging out with a friend:
  • Hold the door open for her? Get laughed at while she walks through.
  • What happens when she reaches a door first at the movie theater? She cuts in front of me and walks through, and quips "Of course I'm not going to let you go first."
  • Listen to her complain about some crap, and make an offer to give her a hand with the problem? "Why? What are you going to do? How would you help? What if I said yes, what could you possibly do? I don't even know why you say that."
  • Pay for her dinner after she insists I pick the place without giving me any input? "I normally wouldn't eat here, but whatever..."
  • I thank her for giving me a free movie ticket (she had a gift card)? "That's fine, now you owe me."
Seriously, what the fuck? I'm not a doormat, lady. I'm not here to be your bitch. I know you think that being nice to others is some sort of weakness and you're so proud about how blunt and rude you can be, but that shit doesn't fly with me.

She wasn't like this earlier; I think I just caught a glimpse of what she's like when she relaxes. Sure, other times she can be friendly. But she is never, ever polite. And she seems to take pride in that.

Bah.
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You need to go all Gilgamesh Wolfenbach one day.


Ah, the days when Girl Genius was absolutely amazing.
 
WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

Soliloquy said:
I just found out that an old friend of mine has an IQ that's about 30 points higher than what one of those crappy free IQ tests says my IQ is.

Weird thing is? I've got a good-paying job. She can't even get one as a hostess at a restaurant.
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IQ really doesn't mean much. That is, there is more to success and ability than what's represented by an IQ score.
 
WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

It doesn't measure many skills. You could be "gifted", but not be able to build a house. You know what a house is for and have an understanding of what goes into the construction of a home, but not have the skill to do it well.
 
Vagabond

Vagabond

Having a job that's outside of the majority of the day, during this heatwave, is turrble.

Minor rant because I've sweat out my ability to major rant.
 
Bubble181

Bubble181

Vagabond said:
Having a job that's outside of the majority of the day, during this heatwave, is turrble.

Minor rant because I've sweat out my ability to major rant.
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Contrariwise, a job in the middle of the night, in an airconditioned room without windows or any other access to the outdoor, in this nice warm summer weather, sucks too. As far as I'm concerned in here, it could be a blizzard out there at -50°C or a heat wave of 45°C - I couldn't tell. the only thing I know is that I have to try adn sleep through the hot part of this day, which sucks major balls :p

Still, you've got my sympathy. At least I'm not sweating :p
 
Frank

Frank

Man, I have been being a complete asshole at nearly every social level of my life lately and I never catch on that I'm being that asshole until it's too late and the damage is done.

I need a vacation from my vacation.
 
WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

There are days when I really want to apologize to Mr. Wasabi for making a convincing argument for him to reenlist and stay in to retirement rather than getting out when he could have a few years ago. This command is full of lazy-ass douchebags who like to play favorites and not stick to the rules. I know this happens out in civilian jobs, too, since I dealt with it in the casino industry. I feel bad that I'm the one who pointed out all the reasons why sticking it out a few more years would pay off and why trying to get a job in this economy (3 years ago) was not going to be easy even with his contacts in a bunch of military-related companies. And because of that he's dealing with a bunch of bullshit on an almost daily basis some of which will likely keep him from being promoted.
 
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makare

Just remind him how proud of him you are for putting up with that crap to make your family's life better. That's what matters. Not what you should have or could have done differently.
 
Silent Bob

Silent Bob

WasabiPoptart said:
There are days when I really want to apologize to Mr. Wasabi for making a convincing argument for him to reenlist and stay in to retirement rather than getting out when he could have a few years ago. This command is full of lazy-ass douchebags who like to play favorites and not stick to the rules. I know this happens out in civilian jobs, too, since I dealt with it in the casino industry. I feel bad that I'm the one who pointed out all the reasons why sticking it out a few more years would pay off and why trying to get a job in this economy (3 years ago) was not going to be easy even with his contacts in a bunch of military-related companies. And because of that he's dealing with a bunch of bullshit on an almost daily basis some of which will likely keep him from being promoted.
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Eh, favoritism is prevalent in almost all work places. Promotions are more often than not a sheer stroke of luck and "who you know".
 
WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

ThatNickGuy said:
How long does he have to retirement, WasabiPoptart? Am I right in thinking military careers tend to end sooner compared to many other careers?
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Right now he can retire with 20 years in (actually if he doesn't get promoted to E-7 he'll be forced to retire at 20 years). Depending on your rank/rate and if you want to keep going in the military you can get out after serving your initial contract of about 4 years. No retirement with that though. If you stay in longer, you can get kicked out for staying at one rank/rate for too long. My husband could have been made to leave at 15 years, but he was excluded from that new rule because of the date when he joined. He's allowed to serve 20 years, then he has to "separate". He'll only be 37 or 38 and he gets some retirement benefits like a partial pension and our family will have health coverage. If he doesn't get promoted to E-7 then he'll be retiring in about 4-5 years. If he does...well, it'll be a few more years down the road.[DOUBLEPOST=1341795713][/DOUBLEPOST]
Silent Bob said:
Eh, favoritism is prevalent in almost all work places. Promotions are more often than not a sheer stroke of luck and "who you know".
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I've told him the same thing about favoritism. He's never had a real civilian job, so he thinks it's military BS and not in the world outside too.
A promotion for him will be more than luck. Especially this time around. Ask Dark Audit or TinWhistler (among other former US sailors here or even Dave and OC who were Marines) about how you make Chief Petty Officer. He has to take a test (which he's passed yet again) and his record gets reviewed by a selection board of higher ranking NCOs (non-commissioned officers). It's a promotion that is steeped in tradition and honor in the Navy. They don't let just anyone in.
 
WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

makare said:
Just remind him how proud of him you are for putting up with that crap to make your family's life better. That's what matters. Not what you should have or could have done differently.
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Oh I have. And I would never tell him that I feel bad about this or that I almost wish I hadn't compelled him to reenlist. It's bad enough that his morale is in the toilet without hearing that from me. If you could see his FB wall (which may not seem like a great form of communication to some of you, but sometimes it's even better than emailing him since the ship's network sucks), you'd see what a sappy, goofball I am when it comes to him. I am very proud of his service in the military and his dedication to doing what's best for our family even if it sucks for him. He knows I think he's the bees knees as a husband and Daddy.
 
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makare

Goddamn it I am so sick of people online who confuse being an asshole with being honest. "Whatever I am just being honest" No you are being an insufferable asshole and I hate you for it.
 
PatrThom

PatrThom

Soliloquy said:
Weird thing is? I've got a good-paying job. She can't even get one as a hostess at a restaurant.
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Being gifted means you are doomed to a life of distraction. You continually think about stuff that nobody else cares about, and no matter how much you try, you can't make them understand.

--Patrick
 
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