Rant VIII: The Reckoning

@ThatNickGuy Don't fret too much about the age gap! My parents were 2 years apart and got divorced, some of their friends are 6 or more years apart and still are together. Nothing to see here, move on!

GF is 8 years younger than I, her sister is married to a guy 15 years older. There's a lot of age gap couples out there and they all find out how it will work for them on their own, so you do it as well. Good luck, whatever will come!
 
Huh. I was honestly expecting to wake up this morning to a lot more "Don't do it! She's too young!" comments or cradle robbing jokes. Thanks, guys. I really don't know what it is about this girl. I'm sure as hell not going to just jump into anything, believe me. From the sounds of it, we could both use a little bit of slow in our lives.
The age difference is a challenge, not a guarantee. It CAN work, but of course only time will tell if it WILL.

--Patrick
 
Nick, if I may be so blunt:

You've made a lot of posts about being unhappy with your life. This isn't a magic cure-all for all your problems but I think you've earned the right to do something that makes you happy and feel good. If it doesn't work out because of the age difference thats one thing. The main reason people get so worked up over relationships with an age gap like that is because it frequently involves the older man taking advantage of the younger one. I could be wrong but I'd be shocked if you were the type to do that.

Just live a little.
 
New Roommate #4 brought us to a party, got drunk, and proceeded to launch fireworks at cars from the balcony.

We're noping out of this and telling him he needs to leave. Luckily he hasn't signed onto the lease papers yet.
 
Eh. If she was 16 and you were 34, you'd get a lot of crasle robbing comments. Those 2 or so years may not mean much on your end, but they sure as hell do on her side. 18-36 is a big gap, but if you're both consenting adults....Eh. As blotsfan said - most "problems" people perceive with age gap couples comes from the odds of abuse or taking advantage (of daddy issues). Unless your persona on here is very different from reality, nobody here sees that happening :p


Rant: the rant, minor rant and whine thread are all filled with far too serious stuff these days. There's literally loved-ones-dying posts in all three! Obviously this sort of thing needs to be said, and I - and I guess everyone - wants to hear it and be there to support you. But keep them out of the minor and whine threads! Those are for small stuff and for things not worth ranting about but which you want to whine about to someone! How in the everloving frack am I supposed to be able to feel miserable about spilling milk in my backpack, thus ruining a book and my jacket, if the post above it is about actual serious issues?!
 
Nick, I'm with everyone else, enjoy your time with this girl, just continue to be you, respectful and caring.

I feel like you mentioned she had a kid though? Did I read that somewhere? If I didn't then ignore this: Thats the only thing I would be double careful about. Getting involved with her is one thing, but (obviously this depends on the kids age) kids don't deal well with "parental" figures coming and going. So unless you are making a serious commitment to someone I would strongly avoid developing a relationship with her kid. Like I said, ignore this if I mis-heard that she has one.

Otherwise, I hope this is a really fun, healthy relationship for you man, you deserve it.
 
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I'm the only straight male at this job, including the manager.

Kid, a head bob and a finger snap is not a substitute for competence. You've been here what, a week? "Don't tell me what to do," will only make seeing week two less likely. Especially when it's over something I'm the most trusted guy in the place to fix. The boss knows I know how to fix it, and when I say don't fuck with it, you'd best not fuck with it.
 
On a completely unrelated work rant (seriously, I'm far from the only straight guy around this place), screw vendors who change manufacturers without telling their customers should be shot with a potato cannon full of their own products. I have to shut my shop down until my vendor can get me a fresh delivery of 40,000 screws that actually have the right head diameter because the new manufacturer is using a nominal #6 diameter and the screws are slipping right through our hinges. This is the second frelling time this vendor has tried to do this to us.
 

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On a completely unrelated work rant (seriously, I'm far from the only straight guy around this place), screw vendors who change manufacturers without telling their customers should be shot with a potato cannon full of their own products. I have to shut my shop down until my vendor can get me a fresh delivery of 40,000 screws that actually have the right head diameter because the new manufacturer is using a nominal #6 diameter and the screws are slipping right through our hinges. This is the second frelling time this vendor has tried to do this to us.
It's hard to read about how straight the males are at your work and then about 40000 screws with right head diameter in the same post with a straight face.
 
So... let me get this straight.... you figure that I need to be punished for something, but don't tell me what it is. You don't tell me that my schedule is being changed, you don't tell me that my days off are getting changed, you don't tell me I'm getting transferred, and leave it to the sergeant who's watch I'm going to to inadvertently let me know that all this is happening?

Y'all hear that? It's the last vestiges of employee loyalty snapping, string by straining string.
 
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So... let me get this straight.... you figure that I need to be punished for something, but don't tell me what it is. You don't tell me that my schedule is being changed, you don't tell me that my days off are getting changed, you don't tell me I'm getting transferred, and leave it to the sergeant who's watch I'm going to to inadvertently let me know that all this is happening?

Y'all hear that? It's the last vestiges of employee loyalty snapping, string by straining string.
...Gee, OC, when did you move to Wisconsin?
 
So... let me get this straight.... you figure that I need to be punished for something, but don't tell me what it is. You don't tell me that my schedule is being changed, you don't tell me that my days off are getting changed, you don't tell me I'm getting transferred, and leave it to the sergeant who's watch I'm going to to inadvertently let me know that all this is happening?

Y'all hear that? It's the last vestiges of employee loyalty snapping, string by straining string.
Every Staff Sergeant ever.
 

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Depression is a real illness, and it deserves attention. But suffering from it does not make you an expert in it's treatment. Therapy via talk is a valid treatment for depression. Maybe your family and friends are bad at it, but it doesn't mean what they're doing is wrong, nor is talking it out an apt analogy for attempting to treat a cut by talking about it. It's not. There are some vocal opinions out there on the web from people suffering from depression about this. It's good to get personal accounts, but at the same time, how much would you weight the opinion of the sufferer of a large wound in its treatment?
 
I almost got screwed by a really good paypal phising site, mostly because I was tired and inattentive >_>

they got my basic personal info(i think) before I realized that why the hell did paypal need my name, address, phone number AGAIN for!? I clicked out after entering that and stopping and thinking about what was going on.
no social or credit card numbers given(the email looked good and all the links went to the offical site except for the one that said reconfirm your info.) I feel like a moron, but i changed all my passwords and turned on two-step verification on paypal and ebay. also filed a fraud alert with the credit agencies just to be safe.
 
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