Anonymous random halforumite sex poll

Would you sign up for the Halforums Snu-Snu matching service (read the post)?

  • I am male, and I would sign up.

    Votes: 21 42.9%
  • I am male, and I would not sign up.

    Votes: 21 42.9%
  • I am female, and I would sign up.

    Votes: 4 8.2%
  • I am female, and I would not sign up.

    Votes: 3 6.1%

  • Total voters
    49

fade

Staff member
Here's a different question that removes social stigma. Have you ever felt like you just didn't want to do it with your current significant other right now? Because the answer for most dudes to that question is no. Arm falling off? Let's do it. Headache and vomiting? Okay give me one second and I'll be right there.
 
Here's a different question that removes social stigma. Have you ever felt like you just didn't want to do it with your current significant other right now? Because the answer for most dudes to that question is no. Arm falling off? Let's do it. Headache and vomiting? Okay give me one second and I'll be right there.
I would say this depends on your level of sexual activity too. If you have an active sex life, I know that even dudes have times when they don't want sex. That or I am an ugly rejectable beast at random times, which could also be a possibility I guess. I've also seen guys reject sex with girls that are on their periods. And no, requesting head because they are squeamish about menstrual fluid is bullshit and doesn't count. ;)

(Also, the menstual cycle thing hasn't really applied to me yet, but I don't think we need a reminder of that TMI conversation.)
 
If you have an active sex life, I know that even dudes have times when they don't want sex.
Really it's this. No one obsesses over sex like a virgin, and in the same way, someone who isn't having much sex is more likely ready for it at any moment vs someone who's having sex regularly.
 

fade

Staff member
I personally can think of almost no time I haven't wanted sex to some degree. Even if i wasn't thinking about it, if it was offered the answer would be yes before the sentence ended. There's no such thing as "too tired" or "not in the mood". Unless I'm being grumpy in which case it's physically a lie. I still actually want very much to, but I'm not giving in.
 
I personally can think of almost no time I haven't wanted sex to some degree. Even if i wasn't thinking about it, if it was offered the answer would be yes before the sentence ended. There's no such thing as "too tired" or "not in the mood". Unless I'm being grumpy in which case it's physically a lie. I still actually want very much to, but I'm not giving in.
Sex is like oxygen. It's no big deal until you're not getting any.
 
Here's a different question that removes social stigma. Have you ever felt like you just didn't want to do it with your current significant other right now? Because the answer for most dudes to that question is no. Arm falling off? Let's do it. Headache and vomiting? Okay give me one second and I'll be right there.
Yes, that's me. I have a significantly higher libido than my wife, but there are still times when I'm not in the mood.

Usually it's when I've bought a cool new game, and time spent in the sack is time not spent gaming, so...
 
This reminds me of years ago when an article came up on the forum about a guy who was divorcing his wife of 30+ years because she'd demanded sex every night since they were married. Most of us were going "what's wrong with that?" Jay was the only voice of reason to say "look, we all like sex, but some nights you just want to sleep."
 
I would say this depends on your level of sexual activity too. If you have an active sex life, I know that even dudes have times when they don't want sex. That or I am an ugly rejectable beast at random times, which could also be a possibility I guess. I've also seen guys reject sex with girls that are on their periods. And no, requesting head because they are squeamish about menstrual fluid is bullshit and doesn't count. ;)

(Also, the menstual cycle thing hasn't really applied to me yet, but I don't think we need a reminder of that TMI conversation.)
Menstrual sex has never been an issue for me.

Everything else is pretty spot on. When I'm single and not getting any on the regular(which hasn't been an issue in a couple decades, at least), I become a lot more like the dude stereotype GasBandit's been talking about. I'm basically always in the mood.

But when I'm getting it on the regular, there have been times I've turned down sex simply for not being in the mood. In my experience, females don't have much experience with sexual rejection, and take it super personally. In the past (though not with my current wife), this has led to some pretty big fights. At which point, I feel compelled to remind my partner that if I acted that way when they weren't in the mood, I'd be considered a misogynistic asshole at best, and potential rapist at worst for trying to browbeat a woman into having sex with me when she didn't want to.
 
What's the matter Terrik? Can't handle a little menstrual fluid conversation? Because I could discuss my first boyfriend's fetishes again.
 
I had already buried that memory. Why did you have to summon it up from the deepest, darkest recesses of my mind?
 

GasBandit

Staff member
Menstrual sex has never been an issue for me.

Everything else is pretty spot on. When I'm single and not getting any on the regular(which hasn't been an issue in a couple decades, at least), I become a lot more like the dude stereotype GasBandit's been talking about. I'm basically always in the mood.

But when I'm getting it on the regular, there have been times I've turned down sex simply for not being in the mood. In my experience, females don't have much experience with sexual rejection, and take it super personally. In the past (though not with my current wife), this has led to some pretty big fights. At which point, I feel compelled to remind my partner that if I acted that way when they weren't in the mood, I'd be considered a misogynistic asshole at best, and potential rapist at worst for trying to browbeat a woman into having sex with me when she didn't want to.
Heck, Pauline used to get upset with me and sulky if I wasn't asking for sex often enough (and "enough" was basically at least once a day). Though, I guess from what I learned later, maybe she wasn't quite typical in a lot of areas dealing with this subject.
 
Sex is like oxygen. It's no big deal until you're not getting any.
You get too much you get too high
Not enough and you're gonna die

Also, I wonder if the results would change much if Shego were still an active member. People might not want to gamble as much if there's the chance you'll draw the mantis/widow, right?

--Patrick
 

GasBandit

Staff member
You get too much you get too high
Not enough and you're gonna die

Also, I wonder if the results would change much if Shego were still an active member. People might not want to gamble as much if there's the chance you'll draw the mantis/widow, right?

--Patrick
Again with the changing the rules. It's a hetero only matching service :p
Plus I'd be willing to bet Shego's response would be "I don't need a service." Seems to me, she often remarked on how often and easily she found a willing partner.
 

GasBandit

Staff member
Ah, I didn't know we were screening applicants. If you mentioned that somewhere, I must've missed it.

--Patrick
Yep. Only matches men with women, and only 1 at a time of each. Could have sworn this was covered earlier, but ah well.
 
Yep. Only matches men with women, and only 1 at a time of each. Could have sworn this was covered earlier, but ah well.
I knew this part, I just didn't know we were enforcing that everyone who signed up would have to be verified as straight (i.e., not lying on their application).

--Patrick
 

GasBandit

Staff member
I knew this part, I just didn't know we were enforcing that everyone who signed up would have to be verified as straight (i.e., not lying on their application).

--Patrick
Well, it wouldn't be fair to their potential partner, who wouldn't have signed up for that.
 
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